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It’s not over yet

 

Sometimes you completely forget a song that had great significance for you at some time.

Then you hear it out of the blue. Sometimes it all comes flooding back. Sometimes the years have stripped it of its power.

For me, in this case, if I am truly honest, it is a bit of both. I cannot recreate my feelings at the time I first heard it (a few years after this version was released), and yet I do remember how it seemed to capture the hurt of those days. And the lonely nights.

So I thought I would share it with you as a song that I like but you might not know

The band is Klaxons. The members are English and have been going since about 2005. Despite what Wiki says, they are still very much alive and kicking.

This song featured on their 2007 album ‘Myths of the Near Future’. It is actually a cover of a song by a dance act called Grace (actually a Paul Oakenfield vehicle). It was originally released in 1995 and had many remixes and revamps.

I am not generally a fan of covers unless the cover makes a statement that is beyond or different to the original. The Klaxons version, in my opinion, does. It has an intensity I think the original hasn’t – and an air of menace too.

Anyway. I heard it in my buds this morning and was moved enough to repeat it a number of times there and when I reached home – and to enthuse about it here.

So I suppose it did touch me after all.

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‘It’s not over yet’ © written by Robert Berkeley Davis / Paul Mark Oakenfold / Michael Dominie Wyzgowski and performed by Klaxons

This post © the author writing as Romantic Dominant

 

It’s Not over Yet

I live for you
I die for you
Do what you want me to
I cry for you, my tears will show that I can’t let you go
It’s not over, not over, not over, not over yet
You still me want me don’t you?
It’s not over, not over, not over, not over yet
Cause I can see through you
It’s not over, not over, not over, not over yet
You still want me don’t you?
It’s not over, not over, not over, not over yet
Don’t let me down, don’t make a sound
Don’t throw it all away
Remember me so tenderly
Don’t let it slip away
It’s not over, not over, not over, not over yet
You still me want me don’t you?
It’s not over, not over, not over, not over yet
Cause I can see through you
It’s not over, not over, not over, not over yet
You still want me don’t you?
It’s not over, not over, not over, not over yet
It’s not over, not over, not over, not over yet
You still me want me don’t you?
It’s not over, not over, not over, not over yet
Cause I can see through you
It’s not over, not over, not over, not over yet
You still want me don’t you?
It’s not over, not over, not over, not over yet
 
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Posted by on April 20, 2018 in Uncategorized

 

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Beliefs

 

I am sometimes asked, usually by those who cannot understand my devout atheism, what I believe in.

There is an inference that, if I do not believe in a god, specifically the one they believe in, then I cannot be a good man. They argue that without a code then I am somehow morally bankrupt.

Here then, is my code. It is by no means original, but it is simple. It can be summed up in just six words

They are :

Diversity
Tolerance
Inclusion
Equality
Human Kindness

I did think about writing here and explaining the nature, the relevance, the importance of each element – in isolation and holistically. But that would be preaching – something to which I have a great aversion.

Except to say that I personally feel these beliefs are core to a family, a community, a country, a world living in harmony. I live and breathe by them.

And I have yet to find a mainstream religion or a political manifesto which truly embraces all five of them.

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© the author writing as Romantic Dominant

It depresses me that, in the two years since writing this , the leadership and politics of ALL countries have shifted further (in some cases dramatically) towards positions directly opposed to the above principles. And religion … well … best left unsaid.

Photo by Schlegel Doyle

 
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Posted by on April 17, 2018 in Still Life, Uncategorized

 

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Important notice ref e-mail notifications

I have discovered that an individual who receives e-mail notifications of new posts is plagiarizing (stealing) my words. Not only is it a pathetic thing to do, it is also illegal. That is an issue I will deal with separately.

However, it has given me cause to review all the e-mail addresses with whom this site automatically communicates. Some go back many years and are probably no longer valid.

In order to protect my work I am going to delete ALL e-mail notifications shortly and ask if those still interested would re-apply for e-mail notifications. In case I do not recognise who you are it might be wise if you add a note to my About Page or indeed anywhere on my blog – or send a DM to me on @RomDominant

I deeply apologise for this apparent over reaction, but it is by far the cleanest way to address a problem that, for all I know goes beyond the individual concerned.

Please believe me that I am delighted that honest readers would want to know when I have made a new post. It is humbling.

Thank you for continuing to read my untidy jumble of words. It is greatly appreciated.

Indeed, it is part of the reason I keep writing.

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© the author writing as Romantic Dominant

 

 
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Posted by on April 3, 2018 in Uncategorized

 

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Instrument

 

Your body is a rare

beautifully constructed

almost holy instrument

upon which my fingers

and my creativity

and my imagination

and my dark desires

long to play.

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© the author writing as Romantic Dominant

Art by Bruno di Maio

 
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Posted by on March 21, 2018 in Uncategorized

 

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Every pore

 

I will not stop

exploring you

until I have counted

every single pore

of your perfect skin.

 

And then counted

them all

once more

over and over

and over again.

 

Just to ensure

I do not miss

a single one.

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© the author writing as Romantic Dominant

Art by Victoria Selbach

 

 
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Posted by on March 19, 2018 in Uncategorized

 

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International Women’s Day and Sexual D/s

 

Some might have been surprised by my tweet on Twitter earlier today.

Perhaps for a number of readers it might seem an unusual, even an unlikely thing, for a man who is ‘hard wired’ to sexually dominate, control and ‘own’ women to write like this. I shall explain in a moment.

But first of all, why do I find women so incredible?

Basically, because no matter how badly, unfairly, carelessly, cruelly, immorally, and disrespectfully we men have treated women down the centuries, women have not bowed to brutality, persecution, discrimination, patronization, and thoughtlessness. Even when today – even in the ridiculously called ‘first’ world – the situation is still oppressive.

  • The major religions all denigrate, marginalize, and subjugate women to a lesser or greater extent.
  • Pay levels across the globe have been kept universally lower for women. (Even in ‘enlightened’ Hollywood male actors still earn more)
  • Men still occupy the majority of key and middle positions in government and business. There is no real equality of opportunity.
  • Sexual crimes, harassment, intimidation, and sexually inappropriate behaviour are still institutional almost everywhere. The President of the United States is a clear example of it. There is still a belief among many men (and sadly some women) that rape can be justified or excused. It can never be under any circumstances. See here.
  • Men are often allowed to walk away from the physical (and often financial) responsibility of fatherhood, expecting woman to rear children. And regardless of whether the man is there or not, the woman is still often expected to take on the majority of childcare, running the house, and go to work.
  • Even in the USA in around half the states there is no legal limitation on the minimum age of the bride.

I could go on. Forever. Some things maybe are better now than they were once. But it is truly miserable. And the pace of change is glacial.

But despite everything women have bravely battled and fought, and are still doing so. And they are proving, at last that, if there is a more resourceful, adaptable, intelligent and braver sex – then women are it. Because to succeed in living fulfilling and happy lives in such a misogynist and hostile environment takes far more than most men will ever give credit, or even attempt to understand.

And where does D/s – as it relates to me – sit in all of this?

It has very little to do with it.

Sexual D/s is a consensual act or agreement between two people where one gives up their sexual free will to the other. The reason they do this is because it arouses, excites and completes them. It is the way they both are. Of course a Dominant or a submissive can be a man or a woman and vice versa.

But if there is one thing about D/s that does relate to all I have said in this post, then it is this. If any male Dominant thinks he is somehow above, more important or better than his female submissive then he really needs to take a long hard look at himself.

Because he has clearly lost the plot.

And proved my point.

Women are more than equal to men.

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I wrote this, and the tweet, a year ago. I re-post both today. Much has happened in the last twelve months, and perhaps the tide is turning. But it is a massive ocean that needs to change.

© the author writing as Romantic Dominant

Art from UN International Women’s Day promotional material

 

 
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Posted by on March 8, 2018 in Still Life, Uncategorized

 

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Virtual Captivity

 

The power

of his words

a collar

at her throat.

 

The sound

of his voice

a rope

that binds her.

 

The thumb

and forefinger

of his will

a manacle

on her wrist.

 

Her virtual captivity

thrills her.

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© the author writing as Romantic Dominant

A year old, but always appropriate.

Art by Taras Loboda

 

 
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Posted by on January 21, 2018 in Uncategorized

 

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