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The nature of it

 

 

It is the nature

of his dark

D/s religion.

 

His to direct

hers to serve.

 

His to teach

hers to learn.

 

His to own

hers to belong.

 

Theirs to adore

and be adored.

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© the author writing as Romantic Dominant

Posted before, but always true.

Art by Antonio Macedo

 
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Posted by on September 17, 2020 in Uncategorized

 

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Incitement to rape?

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I have published this post four times before, but it feels like a good time to post it again.

 

First posted September 1st 2015

Sometimes I get serious

It seems an ageing female rock star recently suggested in an interview with one of our sad excuses for a serious newspaper that women/girls who dress provocatively should expect to be molested – or worse – by men.

I can only believe she was misquoted – I haven’t read the article so I will give her the benefit of the doubt.

But let me be quite clear.

What a woman or girl wears is entirely her business. It can be sexy and revealing. It can be wild and kinky, It can be ‘slutty’ and sultry. It doesn’t matter. It is entirely her choice. It is her choice to make without fear of harassment, without threat of misogyny, without the danger of some sad prick believing it justifies any attention at all beyond silent admiration.

How a woman acts is equally up to her. If she wants to be a vamp. a princess, a tease, or a kitten she can. If she wants to get, drunk, stoned, utterly out of her mind it isn’t a cry for some mindless moron to take advantage of her, or see it as a come-on, or as an excuse to say she has got it coming to her.

So if you are a man who has so little control of himself that he thinks every scantily clad girl acting outrageously gives him the right to force himself on her, then I would suggest chemical castration is probably too good for you.

And if you are a woman who looks down your nose at someone of your own sex who exercises the freedom to be herself, or thinks that girls bring it on themselves, then all you are doing is colluding with the apes.

In a case of rape (or sexual assault) the woman or girl is never, ever at fault.  Even if she changes her mind at the very last minute, that is her prerogative, her choice, her right.  If a man ‘cannot stop himself’ then he is no more than an animal and deserves to be treated like one.

There is never, repeat never, any justification for rape or any form of harassment, nor can any action by a woman ever be considered as incitement.

 

At some point I shall give my perspective on those who bleat and argue that ‘immodesty among women is against our religion, or is not part of our culture’. Attacking that misogynist, hypocritical, bullying shit deserves a whole post to itself.

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© the author writing as Romantic Dominant

Photo taken from Pinterest. Unsure of source. If it is yours please let me know and I will remove or credit.

 
 

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My Life is Going On – La Casa de Papel

 

It is an age since I have shared music.

But actually this time I am sharing it with a TV recommendation, which is unusual for me.

If you have not been watching La Casa de Papel (Money Heist) then you are missing what I believe is one of the best thriller series for ages. For me, it is one of the best I have seen in my life. It has absolutely everything. It is a compelling drama, exciting, intelligent, emotional, unpredictable, fun, sexy, anti-establishment and completely addictive. It is directed by the talented Alex Pina. I have just started on what I believe is the final series (Series Four). I dread reaching the end.

Do give it a go if it sounds like your kind of thing. Watch it from the first series – you can’t dive in later on. It is on Netflix. But please watch it in the original Spanish (lovely language) with subtitles, not overdubbed. There is nothing worse, or more stupid, than overdubbing.

Back to the music. It was composed by Manel Santisteban, and the words were written by Cecilia Krull. I don’t know if it is a great piece of music or not.

But I now find it as addictive as the series.

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This blog post © the author writing as Romantic Dominant

Music and video from the Netflix series La Casa de Papel (Money Heist)

 

My Life Is Going On

If I’m stayin’ with you, if I’m choosing wrong
I don’t care at all
If I’m losing now, but I’m winning late
That’s all I want
I don’t care at all
I am lost
I don’t care at all
I am lost
Now we need some space, ’cause I feel for you
And I wanna change
Growing up alone, it seems so short
I can’t explain
Whatever happens in the future, trust in destiny
Don’t try to make anything else even when you feel
I don’t care at all
I am lost
I don’t care at all
Lost my time, my life, it’s going on
I will be so strong, looking for a new version of myself
‘Cause now all I want is to be a part of my new world
Whatever happens in the future, trust in destiny
Don’t try to make anything else even when you feel
I don’t care at all
I am lost
I don’t care at all
I am lost
Why not have it all?
I am lost
Lost my time, my life it’s going on
 
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Posted by on June 15, 2020 in Music, Poetry, Uncategorized

 

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Dinner Party conversation

 

I do not eat meat and have not done so for thirty years.

I am not evangelical about it. Other people’s diets are their own affair. And whilst the damage to the planet through meat consumption is deeply disturbing, my own consumption of fish and seafood generally does not provide me with any moral high ground on that score.

But one recurring dinner party conversation I have had over the years with those who like to eat meat has always puzzled me. It goes like this:

Other : (upon deducing that I don’t eat meat) So you don’t eat meat?

Self : No.

Other : That just means red meat, or white meat too?

Self : I eat no meat at all.

Other : But you eat fish?

Self : I love to eat fish. All seafood in fact. Except sea-living mammals.

Other : Some might consider fish to be meat. But anyway, you used to meat once upon a time?

Self : Yes. Lots of it. Anything with a pulse. 

Other : So why did you stop?

At this point I explain that it was for a number of reasons, all and none of which are the primary reason – heath and family history, ethics, environment, animal welfare, etc.

Other : OK (nodding, and then a pause). But you still eat fish.

Self : Yes

Other : You have to admit that is pretty arbitrary

Self : What is?

Other : Well, eating fish and not eating meat. How do you make that distinction?

Self : Between warm-blooded and cold-blooded, I suppose.

Other : Ha! That is really arbitrary.

Self : (smiling) No more than your eating choices when it comes to living creatures.

Other : What do you mean?

Self : You eat cow, and pig, and sheep and chicken I suppose.

Other : Indeed

Self : Duck, rabbit …

Other : Not so keen on rabbit, but its fine.

Self : Horse?

Other : (Looks askance) No

Self : Donkey?

Other : People don’t eat those

Self : I am sure they do somewhere. What about dog, or cat, or squirrel, or rat, or elephant, or giraffe or lion or kangaroo or ostrich, whale or dolphin or …. monkey or ….

Other : Now you are being stupid.

Self : (Shrugs). You rather aggressively suggested my line on what living creatures I eat and do not eat is arbitrary, and I would be the first to concede it has failings from numerous points of view. Vegetarians and vegans would certainly raise questions. The bottom line is I that I don’t eat mammals. The truth is I personally don’t care what you eat, or why.
But when it comes to drawing arbitrary lines. I think you draw them a lot more untidily than I do.

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© the author writing as Romantic Dominant

Written a year ago. Though a regular conversation over time.

Art by Luke Martineau

 

 
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Posted by on May 10, 2020 in Still Life, Uncategorized

 

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Comments Glitch

There is currently a problem with my WordPress account where comments are not showing and/or I am not seeing them.

It is actually more complicated than that, but deadly dull.

This has been a public service announcement for the few who might be vaguely interested.

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Posted by on April 23, 2020 in Uncategorized

 

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Beliefs

 

I am sometimes asked, usually by those who cannot understand my devout atheism, what I believe in.

There is an inference that, if I do not believe in a god, specifically the one they believe in, then I cannot be a good man. They argue that without a code then I am somehow morally bankrupt.

Here then, is my code. It is by no means original, but it is simple. It can be summed up in just six words

They are :

Diversity
Tolerance
Inclusion
Equality
Human Kindness

I did think about writing here and explaining the nature, the relevance, the importance of each element – in isolation and holistically. But that would be preaching – something to which I have a great aversion.

Except to say that I personally feel these beliefs are core to a family, a community, a country, a world living in harmony. I live and breathe by them.

And I have yet to find a mainstream religion or a political manifesto which truly embraces all five of them.

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© the author writing as Romantic Dominant

It disappoints and depresses me that, in the four years since writing this, the leadership and politics of ALL major countries have shifted further (in some cases dramatically) towards positions directly opposed to the above principles. And religion … well … best left unsaid.

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Posted by on April 22, 2020 in politics, Still Life, Uncategorized

 

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Beneath my skin

 

You have touched me

without touching me.

You have made me

feel you

beneath my skin.

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© the author writing as Romantic Dominant

Art by William Oxer

 

 
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Posted by on February 28, 2020 in Uncategorized

 

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I will

 

I will undress you

slowly

with my words.

 

I will guide your hands

irresistibly

with my voice.

 

I will arch your back

beautifully

with my control.

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© the author writing as Romantic Dominant

I wrote this couple of years ago. I will …

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Posted by on February 9, 2020 in Uncategorized

 

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Greater danger?

 

Is your beauty

more dangerous

to me

than my words

are to you,

and will we

ever know

for sure?

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© the author writing as Romantic Dominant

Art by William Oxer

 

 
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Posted by on January 6, 2020 in Uncategorized

 

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Geometry

 

Your curves

your contours

your angles

your lines

your form

your figure

your shape.

 

I adore

your sublime

geometry.

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© the author writing as Romantic Dominant

Art by William Oxer

 
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Posted by on January 3, 2020 in Uncategorized

 

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