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An incitement to rape?

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I have published this post three times before, but it feels like a good time to post it again.

 

First posted September 1st 2015

Sometimes I get serious

It seems an ageing female rock star recently suggested in an interview with one of our sad excuses for a serious newspaper that women/girls who dress provocatively should expect to be molested – or worse – by men.

I can only believe she was misquoted – I haven’t read the article so I will give her the benefit of the doubt.

But let me be quite clear.

What a woman or girl wears is entirely her business. It can be sexy and revealing. It can be wild and kinky, It can be ‘slutty’ and sultry. It doesn’t matter. It is entirely her choice. It is her choice to make without fear of harassment, without threat of misogyny, without the danger of some sad prick believing it justifies any attention at all beyond silent admiration.

How a woman acts is equally up to her. If she wants to be a vamp. a princess, a tease, or a kitten she can. If she wants to get, drunk, stoned, utterly out of her mind it isn’t a cry for some mindless moron to take advantage of her, or see it as a come-on, or as an excuse to say she has got it coming to her.

So if you are a man who has so little control of himself that he thinks every scantily clad girl acting outrageously gives him the right to force himself on her, then I would suggest chemical castration is probably too good for you.

And if you are a woman who looks down your nose at someone of your own sex who exercises the freedom to be herself, or thinks that girls bring it on themselves, then all you are doing is colluding with the apes.

In a case of rape (or sexual assault) the woman or girl is never, ever at fault.  Even if she changes her mind at the very last minute, that is her prerogative, her choice, her right.  If a man ‘cannot stop himself’ then he is no more than an animal and deserves to be treated like one.

There is never, repeat never, any justification for rape, nor can any action by a woman be considered as incitement.

 

At some point I shall give my perspective on those who bleat and argue that ‘immodesty among women is against our religion, or is not part of our culture’. Attacking that misogynist, hypocritical, bullying shit deserves a whole post to itself.

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© the author writing as Romantic Dominant

Photo taken from Pinterest. Unsure of source. If it is yours please let me know and I will remove or credit.

 
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Posted by on July 14, 2018 in Still Life, Uncategorized

 

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Spotlight

 

You are the girl

I want

dancing

in the spotlight

of my desire.

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© the author writing as Romantic Dominant

Art by Hamish Blakely

 

 
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Posted by on July 4, 2018 in Uncategorized

 

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It’s not over yet

 

Sometimes you completely forget a song that had great significance for you at some time.

Then you hear it out of the blue. Sometimes it all comes flooding back. Sometimes the years have stripped it of its power.

For me, in this case, if I am truly honest, it is a bit of both. I cannot recreate my feelings at the time I first heard it (a few years after this version was released), and yet I do remember how it seemed to capture the hurt of those days. And the lonely nights.

So I thought I would share it with you as a song that I like but you might not know

The band is Klaxons. The members are English and have been going since about 2005. Despite what Wiki says, they are still very much alive and kicking.

This song featured on their 2007 album ‘Myths of the Near Future’. It is actually a cover of a song by a dance act called Grace (actually a Paul Oakenfield vehicle). It was originally released in 1995 and had many remixes and revamps.

I am not generally a fan of covers unless the cover makes a statement that is beyond or different to the original. The Klaxons version, in my opinion, does. It has an intensity I think the original hasn’t – and an air of menace too.

Anyway. I heard it in my buds this morning and was moved enough to repeat it a number of times there and when I reached home – and to enthuse about it here.

So I suppose it did touch me after all.

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‘It’s not over yet’ © written by Robert Berkeley Davis / Paul Mark Oakenfold / Michael Dominie Wyzgowski and performed by Klaxons

This post © the author writing as Romantic Dominant

 

It’s Not over Yet

I live for you
I die for you
Do what you want me to
I cry for you, my tears will show that I can’t let you go
It’s not over, not over, not over, not over yet
You still me want me don’t you?
It’s not over, not over, not over, not over yet
Cause I can see through you
It’s not over, not over, not over, not over yet
You still want me don’t you?
It’s not over, not over, not over, not over yet
Don’t let me down, don’t make a sound
Don’t throw it all away
Remember me so tenderly
Don’t let it slip away
It’s not over, not over, not over, not over yet
You still me want me don’t you?
It’s not over, not over, not over, not over yet
Cause I can see through you
It’s not over, not over, not over, not over yet
You still want me don’t you?
It’s not over, not over, not over, not over yet
It’s not over, not over, not over, not over yet
You still me want me don’t you?
It’s not over, not over, not over, not over yet
Cause I can see through you
It’s not over, not over, not over, not over yet
You still want me don’t you?
It’s not over, not over, not over, not over yet
 
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Posted by on April 20, 2018 in Uncategorized

 

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Beliefs

 

I am sometimes asked, usually by those who cannot understand my devout atheism, what I believe in.

There is an inference that, if I do not believe in a god, specifically the one they believe in, then I cannot be a good man. They argue that without a code then I am somehow morally bankrupt.

Here then, is my code. It is by no means original, but it is simple. It can be summed up in just six words

They are :

Diversity
Tolerance
Inclusion
Equality
Human Kindness

I did think about writing here and explaining the nature, the relevance, the importance of each element – in isolation and holistically. But that would be preaching – something to which I have a great aversion.

Except to say that I personally feel these beliefs are core to a family, a community, a country, a world living in harmony. I live and breathe by them.

And I have yet to find a mainstream religion or a political manifesto which truly embraces all five of them.

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© the author writing as Romantic Dominant

It depresses me that, in the two years since writing this , the leadership and politics of ALL countries have shifted further (in some cases dramatically) towards positions directly opposed to the above principles. And religion … well … best left unsaid.

Photo by Schlegel Doyle

 
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Posted by on April 17, 2018 in Still Life, Uncategorized

 

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Important notice ref e-mail notifications

I have discovered that an individual who receives e-mail notifications of new posts is plagiarizing (stealing) my words. Not only is it a pathetic thing to do, it is also illegal. That is an issue I will deal with separately.

However, it has given me cause to review all the e-mail addresses with whom this site automatically communicates. Some go back many years and are probably no longer valid.

In order to protect my work I am going to delete ALL e-mail notifications shortly and ask if those still interested would re-apply for e-mail notifications. In case I do not recognise who you are it might be wise if you add a note to my About Page or indeed anywhere on my blog – or send a DM to me on @RomDominant

I deeply apologise for this apparent over reaction, but it is by far the cleanest way to address a problem that, for all I know goes beyond the individual concerned.

Please believe me that I am delighted that honest readers would want to know when I have made a new post. It is humbling.

Thank you for continuing to read my untidy jumble of words. It is greatly appreciated.

Indeed, it is part of the reason I keep writing.

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© the author writing as Romantic Dominant

 

 
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Posted by on April 3, 2018 in Uncategorized

 

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Instrument

 

Your body is a rare

beautifully constructed

almost holy instrument

upon which my fingers

and my creativity

and my imagination

and my dark desires

long to play.

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© the author writing as Romantic Dominant

Art by Bruno di Maio

 
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Posted by on March 21, 2018 in Uncategorized

 

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Every pore

 

I will not stop

exploring you

until I have counted

every single pore

of your perfect skin.

 

And then counted

them all

once more

over and over

and over again.

 

Just to ensure

I do not miss

a single one.

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© the author writing as Romantic Dominant

Art by Victoria Selbach

 

 
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Posted by on March 19, 2018 in Uncategorized

 

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