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About and Explanation

The Great Poet by Vettriano

I am a faded romantic Dominant from a time before Dominant became a cliché, with a love of all things beautiful and a taste for the darkly sensual and erotically decadent.

A lover of music, food and wine, literature, theatre, film and art.

A writer. Though not a good one. Yet vaguely famous. Novels, short stories, songs and poetry. The written word is my joy and my curse.

I am tall, silver-haired, slender, athletic, with piercing dark green/blue eyes and long, sensitive hands. I am neither handsome nor unattractive. I am a realistic dreamer, an idealistic pragmatist. I am a sexually dominant yet patient and sensual lover – whether it be physically or at a distance. I am teacher and priest in my own dark religion of Dominance and submission.

I adore intelligent, elegant, independent-minded, beautiful, sexually submissive women. Particularly those who have yet to release the submissive ache in their soul

I am not young. I am faded and fading still.

But if the music is playing, and the wine is good, and the stars are shining bright in a soft velvet night sky, and the light falls on me just right –  then you might see the man who could, and can still, break hearts.

Well, if you have a good imagination anyway …

And this post and this post are important if you want to have a clue about what is going on …

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LAST UPDATED : 20th May 2020

© the author writing as Romantic Dominant

Twitter :  @romdominant

Art by Jack Vettriano

 

 

240 responses to “About and Explanation

  1. LadyBlueRose's Thoughts Into Words

    April 4, 2012 at 3:15 am

    I think one might feel the energy of your words
    and that could break more hearts…
    you write very well for someone
    who isn’t a writer…..
    the energy isn’t fading you know it gets stronger as the sun drifts below the horizon
    and stars twinkle in the twilight….

    Thank you I have enjoyed wandering within your thoughts to night…
    Take Care….
    You Matter….
    )0(
    maryrose

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    • Romantic Dominant

      April 4, 2012 at 7:47 am

      Maybe you are right. The energy becomes more concentrated – distilled perhaps.
      Thank you for your words.
      You take care too.
      RD

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  2. laynearogers

    April 9, 2012 at 11:11 am

    Romantic indeed. I find your words to be truly inspiring.

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    • Romantic Dominant

      April 9, 2012 at 11:13 am

      To be an inspiration to such a beauty is a joy indeed

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  3. b_y

    April 14, 2012 at 4:38 pm

    *grin*

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    • Romantic Dominant

      April 14, 2012 at 4:54 pm

      Always pleased to provoke a smile

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  4. Eve Redwater

    April 28, 2012 at 9:52 am

    Thank you for reading one of my poems, I’ll be sure to keep my eye out for your future posts!

    All the best,
    Eve x

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    • Romantic Dominant

      April 28, 2012 at 2:34 pm

      Thank you.

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  5. hannahclaytor

    May 13, 2012 at 9:01 pm

    Can you explain your ideas behind the submissive and dominant for me? I just stumbled across your blog yesterday and am enjoying the posts I have read so far very much. Though I am a bit perplexed by the S/D you keep referring to. Are all women submissives and all men dominants? Or are you referring to a particular type of woman you have been with, and you just happen to perceive yourself as dominant?

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    • Romantic Dominant

      May 13, 2012 at 9:27 pm

      Hello Hannah. Ah, where do I start? I feel a huge responsibility in attempting to explain from a base point. I am sure there are others who could do it better. Specifically, no, men or women can be Dominant or submissive. It is in the nature of some people to be so. It is a broad church that has extremes. Speaking only for myself, I am naturally Dominant sexually and am attracted to women who are sexually submissive. But that doesn’t mean that they are submissive in all aspects of their life. Indeed I prefer they are not. How is that for a start?

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    • Romantic Dominant

      May 13, 2012 at 9:58 pm

      Actually that wasn’t a great explanation in a paragraph. There are five posts on Love Affair Diary that almost explain everything. I shall post the links here tomorrow.

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      • hannahclaytor

        May 13, 2012 at 11:25 pm

        No, it was a good start. I do see where you are coming from, I just find it an interesting concept and I do not know if I could define myself into one category. Also pleased to hear that you are not defining all women as submissive, sexually or in other respects, as I would certainly have something to say about that. 😉 Just had a quick look over LAD – the last few posts may have wet my eyes a little… if the love is still there and you still have the physical attraction to each other, can you not work it out? Maybe I need to read more to see why it wasn’t meant to be. Anyway, I’m side-tracking… looking forward to reading your links.

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        • Romantic Dominant

          May 14, 2012 at 2:27 pm

          Sent in an e-mail

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  6. Curly Miri

    May 29, 2012 at 11:29 pm

    Your writing is intriguing and beautiful. Thank you for sharing.

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    • Romantic Dominant

      May 30, 2012 at 8:21 am

      It is me who should thank you for reading it

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  7. mlbk7

    June 19, 2012 at 1:07 pm

    Dear Sir,
    She believes his writing is wonderful and thinks it sings to her. M…

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    • Romantic Dominant

      June 19, 2012 at 3:38 pm

      She flatters me. But I am glad she can hear the song from so far away

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  8. mlbk7

    June 19, 2012 at 4:57 pm

    She loves to flatter Sir..He is
    deserving.
    …his words are the
    magic of the Melody
    and his mind
    is a beautiful
    symphony to her.

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    • Romantic Dominant

      June 19, 2012 at 7:21 pm

      Unusually I am at a loss for words

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  9. mlbk7

    June 19, 2012 at 7:36 pm

    Master is
    admired
    from afar.
    She will try
    not to love him
    so much.
    Take care…
    M.

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    • Romantic Dominant

      June 19, 2012 at 7:57 pm

      Thank you

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  10. nightshadehunter

    July 2, 2012 at 8:04 pm

    Eloquently captivating, I cannot wait to read more

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    • Romantic Dominant

      July 2, 2012 at 9:04 pm

      I hope you enjoy. Thank you for reading

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  11. gladiuspoeticus

    July 10, 2012 at 8:52 pm

    Nothing wrong with your magical dominance; it seems to work fine for you

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    • Romantic Dominant

      July 11, 2012 at 10:30 am

      Thanks.

      ‘Seems’ is the key word!

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      • gladiuspoeticus

        July 11, 2012 at 10:49 am

        you do attract all these beautiful, inquisitive women, don’t you? not all of them submissive ofcourse as that would be rather dull

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        • Romantic Dominant

          July 11, 2012 at 11:33 am

          Laughing. I attract their passing interest perhaps. But even if I were of a predatory nature (which I am not) the majority live 5000 miles away and the remainder would find the reality less appealing than the fantasy.

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          • gladiuspoeticus

            July 11, 2012 at 11:51 am

            Most of us are confined to fantasy as reality is boring.

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            • Romantic Dominant

              July 11, 2012 at 12:07 pm

              Ah. My reality is far from that

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          • a smart girl

            February 13, 2015 at 8:58 pm

            It is, of course, always a possibility that a new acquaintance will prefer fantasy to reality. You must not completely disregard the other possibility, however. Many, myself included, vastly prefer the wisdom accumulated from experience, the strength shown by every scar and the honesty of acknowledged weakness to the most beautiful, but untrue, daydream.

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  12. Daydreamer

    September 7, 2012 at 5:03 pm

    Flowing words from a heart that feels things deeply, passionately… Traits that make the most enlightening writers. You are a great writer and somethings tells me a whole lot more…glad to know you.

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    • Romantic Dominant

      September 8, 2012 at 9:49 am

      If I blushed, I would. Thanks.

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  13. handshedown

    September 30, 2012 at 5:17 pm

    In response to your wonderfully touching comments, I wanted to check out your own blog. My God. You are an insanely talented. There is such a passion in your words.
    xo

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    • Romantic Dominant

      September 30, 2012 at 5:30 pm

      You are too kind. But you use words very cleverly indeed.

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  14. freakynewchild

    October 1, 2012 at 3:38 am

    First, thank you for your comment. And what a way to describe yourself, I fell in love a little, then realized something… You sir, are quite a subtly manipulative man- that is you’re a consummate seducer. You draw the reader into playing peekaboo with you (ie, refer to the avatar, a rear-view portrait), you toy with perceptions, incite c