About and Explanation

The Great Poet by Vettriano

I am a faded romantic Dominant from a time before Dominant became a cliché, with a love of all things beautiful and a taste for the darkly sensual and erotically decadent.

A lover of music, food and wine, literature, theatre, film and art.

A writer. Though not a good one. Of novels, short stories, songs and poetry. The written word is my joy and my curse.

I am tall, silver-haired, slender, athletic, with piercing dark green/blue eyes and long, sensitive hands. I am neither handsome nor unattractive. I am a realistic dreamer, an idealistic pragmatist. I am a sexually dominant yet patient and sensual lover – whether it be physically or at a distance. I am teacher and priest in my own dark religion of Dominance and submission.

I adore intelligent, elegant, independent-minded, beautiful, sexually submissive women. Particularly those who have yet to release the submissive ache in their soul

I am not young. I am faded and fading still.

But if the music is playing, and the wine is good, and the stars are shining bright in a soft velvet night sky, and the light falls on me just right –  then you might see the man who could, and can still, break hearts.

Well, if you have a good imagination anyway …

And this post and this post are important if you want to have a clue about what is going on …



© the author writing as Romantic Dominant

Twitter :  @romdominant

Art by Jack Vettriano



228 responses to “About and Explanation

  1. LadyBlueRose's Thoughts Into Words

    April 4, 2012 at 3:15 am

    I think one might feel the energy of your words
    and that could break more hearts…
    you write very well for someone
    who isn’t a writer…..
    the energy isn’t fading you know it gets stronger as the sun drifts below the horizon
    and stars twinkle in the twilight….

    Thank you I have enjoyed wandering within your thoughts to night…
    Take Care….
    You Matter….

    Liked by 4 people

    • Romantic Dominant

      April 4, 2012 at 7:47 am

      Maybe you are right. The energy becomes more concentrated – distilled perhaps.
      Thank you for your words.
      You take care too.

      Liked by 1 person

  2. laynearogers

    April 9, 2012 at 11:11 am

    Romantic indeed. I find your words to be truly inspiring.


  3. b_y

    April 14, 2012 at 4:38 pm


    Liked by 1 person

  4. Eve Redwater

    April 28, 2012 at 9:52 am

    Thank you for reading one of my poems, I’ll be sure to keep my eye out for your future posts!

    All the best,
    Eve x


  5. hannahclaytor

    May 13, 2012 at 9:01 pm

    Can you explain your ideas behind the submissive and dominant for me? I just stumbled across your blog yesterday and am enjoying the posts I have read so far very much. Though I am a bit perplexed by the S/D you keep referring to. Are all women submissives and all men dominants? Or are you referring to a particular type of woman you have been with, and you just happen to perceive yourself as dominant?

    Liked by 1 person

    • Romantic Dominant

      May 13, 2012 at 9:27 pm

      Hello Hannah. Ah, where do I start? I feel a huge responsibility in attempting to explain from a base point. I am sure there are others who could do it better. Specifically, no, men or women can be Dominant or submissive. It is in the nature of some people to be so. It is a broad church that has extremes. Speaking only for myself, I am naturally Dominant sexually and am attracted to women who are sexually submissive. But that doesn’t mean that they are submissive in all aspects of their life. Indeed I prefer they are not. How is that for a start?

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    • Romantic Dominant

      May 13, 2012 at 9:58 pm

      Actually that wasn’t a great explanation in a paragraph. There are five posts on Love Affair Diary that almost explain everything. I shall post the links here tomorrow.

      Liked by 1 person

      • hannahclaytor

        May 13, 2012 at 11:25 pm

        No, it was a good start. I do see where you are coming from, I just find it an interesting concept and I do not know if I could define myself into one category. Also pleased to hear that you are not defining all women as submissive, sexually or in other respects, as I would certainly have something to say about that. 😉 Just had a quick look over LAD – the last few posts may have wet my eyes a little… if the love is still there and you still have the physical attraction to each other, can you not work it out? Maybe I need to read more to see why it wasn’t meant to be. Anyway, I’m side-tracking… looking forward to reading your links.


  6. Curly Miri

    May 29, 2012 at 11:29 pm

    Your writing is intriguing and beautiful. Thank you for sharing.

    Liked by 1 person

  7. mlbk7

    June 19, 2012 at 1:07 pm

    Dear Sir,
    She believes his writing is wonderful and thinks it sings to her. M…

    Liked by 1 person

  8. mlbk7

    June 19, 2012 at 4:57 pm

    She loves to flatter Sir..He is
    …his words are the
    magic of the Melody
    and his mind
    is a beautiful
    symphony to her.

    Liked by 1 person

  9. mlbk7

    June 19, 2012 at 7:36 pm

    Master is
    from afar.
    She will try
    not to love him
    so much.
    Take care…

    Liked by 1 person

  10. nightshadehunter

    July 2, 2012 at 8:04 pm

    Eloquently captivating, I cannot wait to read more


  11. gladiuspoeticus

    July 10, 2012 at 8:52 pm

    Nothing wrong with your magical dominance; it seems to work fine for you


    • Romantic Dominant

      July 11, 2012 at 10:30 am


      ‘Seems’ is the key word!


      • gladiuspoeticus

        July 11, 2012 at 10:49 am

        you do attract all these beautiful, inquisitive women, don’t you? not all of them submissive ofcourse as that would be rather dull


        • Romantic Dominant

          July 11, 2012 at 11:33 am

          Laughing. I attract their passing interest perhaps. But even if I were of a predatory nature (which I am not) the majority live 5000 miles away and the remainder would find the reality less appealing than the fantasy.

          Liked by 1 person

          • gladiuspoeticus

            July 11, 2012 at 11:51 am

            Most of us are confined to fantasy as reality is boring.


          • a smart girl

            February 13, 2015 at 8:58 pm

            It is, of course, always a possibility that a new acquaintance will prefer fantasy to reality. You must not completely disregard the other possibility, however. Many, myself included, vastly prefer the wisdom accumulated from experience, the strength shown by every scar and the honesty of acknowledged weakness to the most beautiful, but untrue, daydream.

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  12. Daydreamer

    September 7, 2012 at 5:03 pm

    Flowing words from a heart that feels things deeply, passionately… Traits that make the most enlightening writers. You are a great writer and somethings tells me a whole lot more…glad to know you.


  13. handshedown

    September 30, 2012 at 5:17 pm

    In response to your wonderfully touching comments, I wanted to check out your own blog. My God. You are an insanely talented. There is such a passion in your words.

    Liked by 1 person

  14. freakynewchild

    October 1, 2012 at 3:38 am

    First, thank you for your comment. And what a way to describe yourself, I fell in love a little, then realized something… You sir, are quite a subtly manipulative man- that is you’re a consummate seducer. You draw the reader into playing peekaboo with you (ie, refer to the avatar, a rear-view portrait), you toy with perceptions, incite curiosity and offer this “titillating” duality of a “dominant romantic.” You’ve certainly created a fascinating man, that makes you apt with with words unlike
    what you’ve humbly professed.

    That said, if a man would go around calling himself dominant, chances are he would be met with heinous invective (dominance, like many other words, has been hijacked and pillaged, and now has stigmas of degradation and other squalid traits attached to it). However, if you throw in the word “romantic” (the holly of hollies) it’s like cleaning up the word “dominant,” as if to say “so you think i will defile you, but fear not it will be very romantic too.”

    I enjoyed a little foray into your blog, i’ll be coming back for an another saucy read

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    • Romantic Dominant

      October 1, 2012 at 7:43 am

      Laughing. This is a wonderful comment. Is Dominant such a pejorative word? As for seduction – it is a delicious game for all it not? And no woman who I ‘defiled’ ever succumbed against her will, or had the slightest cause for complaint. Indeed, the opposite.
      But perhaps there is some truth in your perception…
      It will be a pleasure to have you reading.

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      • Marion Nicholls

        April 16, 2015 at 6:18 am

        I’ve just read this post and I can’t help agreeing a little with freakynewchild. I have explored this part of my nature in the past and shut the door on it. I have a life partner who does not share a physical relationship with me in any shape or form but with whom I share my life and friendship. Habit and shared life’s woes bond us together. Exploring this comes with too many risks and to my detriment as I was experiencing them, too many harsh lessons. I am artistic, musical and like you, like good food and fine wine. I am strong, look straight ahead while walking along a path and am somewhat in control of my life. I will not use the term “submit”, preferring “surrender” but only to the man that would be strong enough to see that lying beneath and stop me in my path. I am yet to meet him. I yearn but in secret, in my own little world. It most likely will stay there. Many in this “lifestyle” annoy me. I am older and wiser now, and online, at any rate, call a spade a shovel. I have learned not to fall for the tricks of the men who advertise their wares with descriptive terminology such as “silver-haired”… “with piercing dark green/blue eyes” or who respond with “smiles”. These words are extremely tempting and seductively manipulative-they are designed to create a persona and have *just* the right effect that indeed may very well be utterly idealised baring no resemblance to who you really are. If this is just a fantasy, then you are hurting no-one or the women who faint at your prose. For those who long for the reality until their skin is crawling and they sob uncontrollably knowing it can never happen, this is pure, hurtful, hellish artifice. Yes, “he” was dominant with me until I discovered the reality: he was out of work, was a hen-pecked husband and the only way he could regain some control over his life was by dominating a poor, sexually inexperienced woman thousands of miles away with the most luscious on-line romance. Do you men know how profound it can be to have something recognised within you that you had never fully conceptualised, understood or knew existed for that matter, brought to the surface, nurtured and coaxed into full-blown realisation…have the release and promise dangled in front of you only to have it snatched away..? Are you aware of the responsibility? He too was a writer. That’s all this was/is-words..
        Am I disrespectful? I don’t give a damn..respect is earned.

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        • Romantic Dominant

          April 16, 2015 at 6:53 am

          I write. This is the part of me I choose to write about. I will not censor myself because of the effect it might have on others. Each of us have a responsibility to ourselves. It is not my role or responsibility to consider the impact of my words. Otherwise no writer would write anything.
          I write. The reader has the power to read or ignore.


          • Marion Nicholls

            April 16, 2015 at 11:26 am

            But if your words reach through the veil of cyberspace and clasp a woman’s soul, clawing at the self-imposed armour that protects that secret part of her so much that she is at last vulnerable and exposed, loses all propriety, surrenders to the vortex of dark feelings sweeping over her and declares herself enraptured, I don’t doubt you’d be quite pleased with the impact of your words then….*s* You may deny it but you have quite a harem following and I don’t think it bothers you..

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            • Romantic Dominant

              April 16, 2015 at 12:40 pm

              You are of course talking rubbish, and if you listened to yourself you would realise it.

              Should that awful group One Direction sing and act in such a way that young girls and women who should know better become obsessed by them and become hysterical when one decides to leave?

              Should the equally dire 50 Shades have introduced BDSM to women to whom it was a revelation and may have dramatically altered their perception of sex and relationships. (At the very least having thousands upon thousands talking to imaginary Christian Greys on Twitter?)

              Should JK Rowling have included magic and flying in her books possibly encouraging young children to believe that they might be able to?

              Should there be no books about serial killers in that it might encourage others?

              Should there be no religious texts on the basis that some fanatics might go out and kill in the name of them?

              Should Frozen have been allowed to capture the hearts of young girls to the extent that they cannot do without the frighteningly ubiquitous merchandise?

              All art (and I consider myself an artist, albeit a poor one) has power. Yet you cannot censor it, or expect the artist to consider what action the viewer/reader/listener might take.
              We live in an age where no one seems able to take responsibility, always wanting to blame someone else.

              I like being read (what writer doesn’t) and I like having people who return to read more. I like the fact that it might inspire them, arouse them, thrill them – or annoy them. Is that so strange? Why do most people write, blog, act, sing, paint, compose etc etc? To be heard. To give themselves a voice. This is my voice. I will not take responsibility for it, nor censor it, nor abandon it, nor feel any guilt whatsoever about its impact. The reader decides. Because 99.9% of my readers are intelligent, sensitive and balanced. I will not cater for the 0.1% who seriously need to go out and get themselves a life.

              If you should write again, do not expect a reply. My case is made.

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              • Marion Nicholls

                April 16, 2015 at 9:00 pm

                I realise you would much rather someone who hangs, doe eyed on every word, praising and flattering you than someone who challenges you but the point is I doubt there are too many authors on their writer’s blogs who describe themselves as “tall, slender, athletic, with ‘piercing’ green/blue eyes” then proceed to describe their prowess as a lover. That crosses into other and significantly more intimate territory. You aren’t simply selling words on your site, you are selling yourself and more than your average author. It doesn’t merely sound like you’re just sharing your innermost thoughts as prose and poetry, it sounds like an extended personal ad. You know women and you are well aware of the effect you have. You deliberately and expertly create an impression of yourself that is unecessary if you were merely “writing”-Your prose, which is excellent, speaks for itself.
                Yes, as an author you are not responsible for the effect your words have but this is a multi-layered, deep, emotional dynamic you peddle in and you’re not “just” an author, are you?

                You’re not seducing as an author, you’re seducing as a man.

                You will not hear from me again and your secure status as reigning Harem Master amongst your adoring fans will continue undisputed. It appears dealing with someone who challenges your work is a new experience for you despite your protestations that you like it when your words annoy. A reader can be part of the intelligent, balanced majority and still disagree with you.

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  15. littlegriff74

    October 7, 2012 at 10:56 pm

    You make me smile so very much – I believe that you are a genuine person who cares truly cares


  16. damagedprincess

    November 10, 2012 at 9:25 am

    Hey there, I nominated you for the Liebster Award, if you want to accept, check it out, if not, I hope it sends some more traffic your way anyway.


    • Romantic Dominant

      November 10, 2012 at 6:28 pm

      Thank you so much. I am honoured. However I believe it is for bloggers with less than 200 followers and, surprisingly, I have more. But thanks again.


  17. gemini

    November 11, 2012 at 12:44 pm

    • Romantic Dominant

      November 11, 2012 at 1:02 pm

      Ah Gemini. I am honoured. It is not that I am not grateful – but all the extra things I would need to do are .. well … not really me. But thank you again.


  18. jennywren

    November 11, 2012 at 8:25 pm

    At age 33 after years of enduring an unsatisfying sexless loveless marriage I divorced and discovered my true self courtesy of Sir… The quality of your writing is astounding it invokes the feelings that he gives me… I have been astounded by how submissive an otherwise strong and independent me can be…

    Email to Sir

    My fingers tremble as they skip across the keyboard
    My heart races dopamine levels peak at the thought of the delicious pain and pleasure that awaits
    Amplifying sensation
    Body and mind transfixed mesmerised
    Perplexed by the excitment that comes from the physical discipline and verbal admonishment for my misdeeds
    A sweet bitter cure for this vexing infirmity
    Reaffirming desire those heady light filled beautiful spaces
    Tantalising, alluring erotic chastisement
    Oh how I welcome you to my physical life


    • Romantic Dominant

      November 11, 2012 at 8:58 pm

      Thank you Jenny (I have such a soft spot for a Jenny) for your elegant contribution to this page and your kind words. I am glad you have found happiness. I am certain that your Master is a fortunate man indeed.


    • jennywren2

      November 13, 2012 at 10:42 pm

      Thank you Sir… I have as I’m sure the photos on my profile portray… Obdiently his… Jennywren


  19. theredvelvetchair

    November 12, 2012 at 2:43 am

    Hello. I have become enraptured by your writings and wanted to express my appreciation. A you have a true gift for sharing, thank you. I look forward to reading more.
    Warmest regards, Deidre


    • Romantic Dominant

      November 12, 2012 at 7:49 pm

      Thank you for reading and commenting so sweetly. Warm regards back.


  20. mirabella

    November 18, 2012 at 11:41 pm

    I hate to argue, as we have not met, my opinion not one asked for. You say you are not a good writer…I disagree. wholeheartedly. much love, Bells


    • Romantic Dominant

      November 19, 2012 at 10:09 pm

      You are far, far too kind. I am a word juggler.


      • mirabella

        November 19, 2012 at 10:30 pm

        again, beg to differ…you seem to have a firm grasp on your words. Bxx


  21. equestrienne4life

    November 19, 2012 at 4:43 am

    Just found your site and while I pine for a lost lover, I now have something to occupy my mind besides my own misery..just what the doctor ordered.


    • Romantic Dominant

      November 19, 2012 at 10:12 pm

      I am sorry for your misery. I am glad if there is some comfort here. Thank you for reading.


  22. thesacredroad

    November 19, 2012 at 11:49 pm

    sir, you have the talent of painting words on the page. they bleed with passion and emotion allowing the reader to live and breath with you. that is not something that comes naturally nor easily. pain often unfortunately breeds beauty. your words have power and while my influence is unsubstantial–i have added your site to my inspiration page so others can find comfort in knowing they are not alone. x

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    • Romantic Dominant

      November 20, 2012 at 8:58 am

      You are more than generous. Thank you. I am honoured.


      • thesacredroad

        November 20, 2012 at 1:15 pm

        it is but the truth. thank you for sharing your words with us. X


  23. paintedwords2012

    November 26, 2012 at 9:45 pm

    Hello, I would like to thank you for calling in on our site and liking my poem, it is very much appreciated. I would like to say from what I have read of your note book, I very much like your style of writing. It is sharp, concise, fresh and eloquent, you have a way of saying what needs to be said with a kind of understatement I admire, I will continue to read what you write with interest.

    Liked by 1 person

  24. tsena

    December 14, 2012 at 1:07 am

    such joy to join the harem of those who adore you. she licks lips…i have many poems much like what you write that i do not have posted on my blog since they are currently in submission-status (no dominant-submissive pun intended). someday…until then, my tamer work remains on my site until i choose to submit it, also. until then, i shall enjoy yours…LOVE this “about” page.


    • Romantic Dominant

      December 14, 2012 at 7:44 pm

      Smiles. I am not sure there is a harem of women who adore me, per se. Some of them may like my writing – perhaps others the darkness within it. But I myself am but a faded Dominant.

      ‘Publish and be damned’ is a famous quote worth repeating.

      I am glad you like the page


      • tsena

        December 16, 2012 at 7:43 pm

        ah yes…i recently read this quote: “Poetry gives the griever not release from grief but companionship in grief.” Donald Hall (from the Sue Boynton Poetry blog)
        perhaps we were all damned before we began these endeavors and we now merely share the same exquisite hell.

        Liked by 1 person

        • Romantic Dominant

          December 17, 2012 at 9:01 am

          It may be so. And yet there is much in this hell to be enjoyed as endured.


  25. H. Stos.

    December 20, 2012 at 11:30 pm

    Your blog is perfection to me. I started reading and could not stop, feeling more compelled with every verse I read. Your talent inspires me, and the way your words seduce my mind baffles me. You take out the submissive in me. You make me want to surrender. You make me want to know you better, know the darker side of you.

    (this is not openly hitting on you, i am simply describing what such a talented writer as yourself can achieve)


    • Romantic Dominant

      December 21, 2012 at 8:01 pm

      Thank you. That is praise indeed. It is an extraordinary compliment.

      (I am intrigued as to why you you follow the now silent Love Affair Diary blog rather than this one – yet nevertheless grateful)


      • H. Stos.

        December 22, 2012 at 2:43 am

        I follow both ! and you are welcome. It’s a compliment worthy of your blog. 🙂 Thanks for the follow 😉

        Liked by 1 person

        • Romantic Dominant

          December 22, 2012 at 10:10 am

          How can I have missed such an attractive follower? I am embarrassed at the oversight.


          • H. Stos.

            December 23, 2012 at 12:43 am

            Well, things tend to slip from us all every once in a while. I, for instance, missed your captivating blog. I’m just happy I found a blog I can look forward to reading.

            Don’t be embarrassed.


            • Romantic Dominant

              December 23, 2012 at 10:58 am

              I am glad you found it too. And embarrassment for me is only fleeting.


              • H. Stos.

                December 23, 2012 at 5:06 pm

                You and your smiles. Smile 🙂


          • H. Stos.

            December 23, 2012 at 1:46 am

            Oh, and I’m flattered..


  26. FMG

    December 22, 2012 at 11:47 am

    You gave me a sudden intense of emotions reading all you have written, part of it you provoke a smile.



    January 6, 2013 at 5:07 pm

    Hi. I just stumbled upon this blog of yours. And I find it exquisite. Just read a couple of posts and can sense a tormented writer in yourself. And yes sir, that is a compliment. The writing is incendiary to say the least. Looking forward to read more of your writings.


  28. mizinsomniac

    January 12, 2013 at 5:53 am

    With respect to your byline, I respectfully disagree…the night is never too dark. 😉


  29. ineedyoutoneedme

    January 14, 2013 at 12:38 am

    I enjoy ur blog and I nominated u for the Liebster Blog Award… Click the link below and claim your reward….


    • Romantic Dominant

      January 16, 2013 at 8:18 am

      Thank you. This is very kind and a great honour. I really appreciate it. But awards aren’t really me. But thank you once again. I am truly sorry to decline.


  30. ineedyoutoneedme

    January 16, 2013 at 5:56 pm

    No need to be sorry, I understand…I still enjoy ur blog no matter what… 🙂 and ur welcome


  31. Charron's Chatter

    January 28, 2013 at 6:59 pm

    Hi–I know you don’t accept awards–but I wanted to share your poetry with my readers. If you can come by and see, that would be great! 🙂


  32. douryeh

    January 30, 2013 at 11:17 pm

    Under other circumstances I might almost envy your heroines, but you described them with such humor and affection, that I’ve grown to appreciate them a lot.


  33. silentfingers

    February 6, 2013 at 11:43 pm

    “I am not young. I am faded and fading.”
    Ah, isn’t it this “gradual fade” that makes the timbre of a great personality?


  34. UJaY

    February 16, 2013 at 2:20 pm

    just loving ur pages …will be in & out of ur romantic world of words as I traverse through! thanxx much to have found ur site & keep ur your writings!!


  35. fadingflair

    February 23, 2013 at 5:41 pm

    Ah…fading, faded, fade indeed…


  36. abichica

    February 25, 2013 at 7:48 pm

    I have nominated you for an award.. check it out for more details here. 🙂


    • Romantic Dominant

      February 25, 2013 at 10:22 pm

      I am grateful and honoured. I really am. But awards aren’t really me. I do appreciate it though. Thank you.


  37. Chatty Owl

    April 12, 2013 at 10:05 pm

    Read your statement again. “I adore intelligent, elegant…”
    Need to buy some beauty.


  38. leannecrabtree

    April 28, 2013 at 6:26 pm

    Hi, I’ve nominated you and your blog for the Sunshine Award. You don’t have to accept but you can find the rules here:


    • Romantic Dominant

      April 28, 2013 at 7:10 pm

      Hello Leanne. It is very kind of you and i really do appreciate it… but awards aren’t really me. But do not think that I am not grateful. Thank you.


      • leannecrabtree

        April 28, 2013 at 7:14 pm

        Nah, don’t worry about it. I just like your work 😀


        • Romantic Dominant

          April 28, 2013 at 9:32 pm

          A dangerous liking in one so young, but I am glad you enjoy. Thank you again.


  39. Muse (@curiousmuse1)

    April 28, 2013 at 11:09 pm

    Oh my. Coy modesty. I hadn’t expected that.


  40. Sisyphus47

    May 8, 2013 at 11:09 am

    • Romantic Dominant

      May 8, 2013 at 9:56 pm

      I am honoured, flattered and grateful. Please do not for a moment think I am not. But I don’t really do awards. It isn’t me somehow. I don’t even watch the Oscars. But thank you. It is appreciated.


  41. misscatshack

    May 9, 2013 at 12:36 am

    Hi! I’ve nominated you for the Liebster Blog Award. Enjoy!


    • Romantic Dominant

      May 10, 2013 at 7:45 pm

      Thank you for your kind nomination. I really do appreciate it and am grateful. But I really am not one for awards. Thank you again though.


  42. Pink Woods

    June 8, 2013 at 2:38 am

    Oh you write so well! I’m glad I found your blog.


    • Romantic Dominant

      June 8, 2013 at 9:25 am

      I am glad you found it too. Thank you for reading and the many ‘likes’


  43. dievca

    September 27, 2013 at 3:52 am

    Some of us come to be tied for the first time, later in life. Experience has taught us to look around and seek knowledge in every nook and cranny. As I have been learning about my submissive side, I stumbled upon your Notebook. I visit every few months to find peaceful, thought provoking and joyous pieces of your writing. I see a little bit of myself described in your words. You find Women beautiful and alluring as does my Master. It reminds me that I will be elegant to Him at any age and even if we part. Thank you for sharing your time and your thoughts.


  44. sparkles4m

    October 20, 2013 at 1:25 pm

    As i was reading this morning, i stumbled onto your blog. i enjoy your writing Sir. You remind me so much of my Master. i am following your blog now and i look forward to reading it. You are indeed a very talented writer.


  45. angelamiss15

    December 17, 2013 at 11:07 pm

    I believe you to be a man who is still very capable of breaking hearts, but elects not to do so. There’s an old saying, ‘Just because there is snow on the roof doesn’t mean there is not fire in the furnace.’ You, Sir, have fire.

    It is also said that 90% of sex is in the mind. I would up that to 95%. Looks are overrated. Intelligence is sexy. Seduce my mind and you can have my body.

    I think you catch the gist of what I say.

    Liked by 1 person

  46. lesliemeeks

    April 21, 2014 at 11:30 am

    You are an amazing writer. The way you paint words on a blank canvas is utterly breathtaking. I never tire of reading what you give to us. And from the discription of yourself, I’m sure your breaking hearts all around. I’m very seldom wrong because I do have a wonderful imagination. Keep doing what your doing RD.


    • Romantic Dominant

      April 21, 2014 at 12:08 pm

      Ah Leslie, you are far too generous. I think my days of breaking hearts are done. But thank you for your kind words.


  47. shakespearinlove

    May 16, 2014 at 7:33 pm

    I’ve invited you to join my blog tour because I admire your work, please see post for details, and there is no obligation to accept – I just wanted you to know that I adore your writing 🙂


    • Romantic Dominant

      May 17, 2014 at 12:56 pm

      Hello. Thank you. It is very kind of you and sweet and I am delighted to be asked. But, like awards and memes and the like, I don’t really get involved. I am a miserable recluse in many ways. Smiles. But thank you again.


  48. Poetic Vibrance (@PoeticVibrance)

    June 26, 2014 at 5:28 am

    A man with such beautiful words.. A rare find….


  49. Zula Julia

    July 6, 2014 at 12:30 pm

    I am big fan, you have a distinctive image/voice/character and it moves me, inspiring.


    • Romantic Dominant

      July 6, 2014 at 1:23 pm

      Thank you. Your style, appearance and personality are also distinctive.


  50. Zula Julia

    July 6, 2014 at 12:31 pm



  51. Edainme (@EdainmeLindale)

    July 14, 2014 at 9:21 am

    Power to bring life or to extinguish it, to build or destroy – to paint and create and breathe and soar and bind and free – the written word is more than the ink bleeding over the page.

    There is an undeniable beauty in fading…the slowing of the moments, the clarity of perception and the flavour of the soul ~ Fading blends our best with our worst creating a canvas with the power to weave a symphony that lingers long after the final notes have faded into memory.

    I am finding your words and spirit lovely and strangely familiar in quiet echoes that I almost recall. Thank you for the gift of your time and your words.


  52. Darshan Gajara

    July 15, 2014 at 6:37 pm

    The description seems to be a promising one 🙂


  53. Maria Testarosa (@MariaTestarosa)

    July 21, 2014 at 9:36 pm

    Luck happened upon a tweet, that lead me to your tweets, that lead me to your blog. And now, after months of searching, I “accidentally” have found the phrase I have been looking for that gives me an answer I’ve needed. Thank you.


  54. Madhura

    July 23, 2014 at 7:25 am

    You are a wonderful, wonderful writer… Captivated my attention in a matter of seconds in the first post I read on this blog.. and I couldn’t stop till I read as much as i could… The only thing I can say is this: I so wish I’d written this… But that’s a compliment! Keep writing and I’ll be following!


  55. ~ Sadie ~

    July 31, 2014 at 4:04 am

    I have nominated you for the “One Lovely Blog Award” – please see the link for details:

    Thank you for sharing your beautiful, erotic and sensual words!!


    • Romantic Dominant

      July 31, 2014 at 7:12 am

      You are more than kind and it is wonderfully sweet of you.

      Sadly I am not really one for awards.

      But that does no mean I do not appreciate it. I am delighted by your nomination. Thank you.


  56. ~Heidi's Magical Haven~

    August 4, 2014 at 4:46 pm

    Ok. So I am a bit captured. Where can you take me with your gilded words from here?

    *friendly smirk*


  57. Zula Julia

    November 2, 2014 at 1:58 pm

    Thank you for taking the time to read my update. You are one of the writers I admire for having a clear and strong identity.


  58. Zula Julia

    November 2, 2014 at 2:41 pm

    Thank you


  59. eclecticoddsnsods

    January 10, 2015 at 7:25 pm

    Goodness it must have taken me five minutes to scroll down to the free space for my little comment on your about page which I guess is testament to a ‘good writer’ indeed, your words certainly caught my attention. A question of curiosity, how would you define yourself away from intimate interactions, a non Dominant? I am always curious about this, it I sense perhaps easier for a woman to be submissive only in this area yet slightly less so in the rest of her life, but for a man, perhaps not so to let go control of the reigns in other areas of his life? Once you taste the sweetest fruit, would you not want it sweet all the time? 🙂 x


    • Romantic Dominant

      January 10, 2015 at 10:49 pm

      Of all things, the definition of myself as sexually dominant is easiest. It has always been there, since my earliest memories. A desire to control sexually. Of course I had no idea of what it was, or what it was called. Yet I do know it stems from my adoring women. As strange as that may seem.
      In the rest of my life I am, like most people, more complex. I have always been a leader, particularly in business, but socially I enjoy the freedom of not being in control. And when it comes to women, I like independent, strong women and have no desire to manage relationships. So the short answer is, I am sexually dominant. It has no bearing on relationships beyond that.

      Liked by 1 person

      • eclecticoddsnsods

        January 11, 2015 at 5:49 pm

        You might like this quote that I posted recently in an article I wrote, here is the link:

        promise I am not promoting myself lol, but it’s about Anais Nin, the quote is:

        I, with a deeper instinct, choose a man who compels my strength, who makes enormous demands on me, who does not doubt my courage or my toughness, who does not believe me naive or innocent, who has the courage to treat me like a woman. – Anais Nin

        This quote jumped out at me when I read your reply to me 🙂


  60. Nimmi

    February 10, 2015 at 12:27 pm

    Hey Dear,
    I’m glad to inform you that, I’m nominating you for the THE VERSATILE BLOGGER AWARD. Please, follow the link and accept your Award.
    Congratulations 🙂


    • Romantic Dominant

      February 24, 2015 at 6:03 pm

      I found this in my spam filter. Hence my not replying. I apologise.
      Awards aren’t really me, but I am grateful, flattered and honoured to be nominated. Thank you

      Liked by 1 person

  61. Arwa

    February 15, 2015 at 8:12 pm

    Hi. I nominated you to the Liebster award

    Liked by 1 person

    • Romantic Dominant

      February 15, 2015 at 8:29 pm

      Ah dear Arwa, you are very kind. But I have never really been one for awards. Please do not think that it is not appreciated. It is just that it isn’t really … me. But thank you, truly.


  62. Jenny Gustafson (@ComoSayEskimo)

    April 20, 2015 at 3:02 am

    How interesting that the universe led me to you! I started following on Twitter, your words are beautiful and very much intriguing. Can’t wait to read more! Xxx

    Liked by 1 person

  63. sableswan

    May 4, 2015 at 5:22 pm


    Liked by 1 person

  64. Nimmi

    September 22, 2015 at 8:27 pm

    Hey dear,

    Congratulations! I’m so happy to nominate you for the “Very Inspiring Blogger Award”. You can find the details here:

    Keep Inspiring!! ❤

    Liked by 1 person

    • Romantic Dominant

      September 22, 2015 at 9:22 pm

      You are incredibly kind. And I really appreciate it. Thank you.
      But awards are not really me.
      But thank you again. So sweet.

      Liked by 1 person

      • Nimmi

        September 23, 2015 at 2:05 pm

        I know you won’t accept awards… however, I just want you to know that you are one of my and many others inspiration 😊 keep inspiring others 😊💖

        Liked by 1 person

  65. yourdesiresblog

    March 9, 2016 at 12:52 am

    I love your words

    Liked by 1 person

  66. cswhitlow

    May 30, 2016 at 8:00 pm

    I am intrigued. Beautiful writing.

    Liked by 1 person

  67. Sue Fernott

    September 23, 2016 at 1:24 pm

    I adore your beautiful writing, thank you for sharing it.

    Liked by 1 person

  68. Poppy Ruth Silver

    September 23, 2016 at 7:54 pm

    Am pleased to have found your blog…you have an energy and elegance of words that draw me in 🙂 Blessings and light, Poppy 🙂

    Liked by 1 person

  69. burningbutterfliesblog

    September 25, 2016 at 12:29 am

    I have been following you on Twitter for a while (as PhantomDelight). I am excited to jump into this primary world of yours…one seemingly so familiar to the one inside my soul.

    Liked by 1 person

  70. Written Therapy

    November 19, 2016 at 11:13 pm

    Hi! You have been nominated for The Black Cat Blue Sea Award!
    This award is non obligatory so it’s your choice either to accept it or not.

    Liked by 1 person

  71. terry1420

    November 22, 2016 at 1:32 am

    in fear of making a big fool of myself, is there any way to communicate with you by email? There appears to be no private messaging available. terry1420

    Liked by 1 person

    • Romantic Dominant

      November 22, 2016 at 8:34 am

      Ah, I fear I am a far more interesting person here and on Twitter than I am in person.

      Liked by 1 person

      • terry1420

        November 22, 2016 at 10:54 am

        Would only be email. Too many barriers to ever be in person. I’m sure you are far more interesting person than you give yourself credit for. The small snippets you’ve allowed us to see suggest volumes.

        Liked by 1 person

  72. Jeanne Price

    December 11, 2016 at 9:11 pm

    I recognized the Jack Vettriano art immediately. Sensual.

    Liked by 1 person

  73. talesofaswitch

    January 7, 2018 at 12:49 pm

    You may be fading, but men are like wine, they get better with age. You sir, are a fine canter, yet to be uncorked.

    Liked by 1 person

  74. Audrey Dawn - Oldest Daughter Redheaded Sister

    April 3, 2018 at 2:03 pm

    I’d like to remain on the email list, as well, please. I’m sorry you’ve been taken advantage of, Mr. RD. So you know, there isn’t anyone who could steal your words and offer the authenticity as you do.
    Hopeful your efforts help fix the problem.

    Liked by 1 person

  75. Kami Tupiak

    May 7, 2018 at 2:10 pm

    Your words I inspire me, I cant even explain how it makes me feel. I have just discovered who I truly am and its liberating. This quote means the world to me and makes me weep every time

    “I might want someone to hand me red lace and bring me to the edges of who I am.”

    Liked by 1 person

  76. Brandi Sears

    October 4, 2018 at 5:34 pm


    Liked by 1 person

  77. Brandi Sears

    October 19, 2018 at 1:08 pm

    Not sure why I keep coming back and reading this.
    But I do.

    Liked by 1 person

    • Romantic Dominant

      October 19, 2018 at 4:15 pm

      I an delighted that you come back often. But likewise am not sure why. Smiles.


  78. patti o'malley (@OzoneparkPatti)

    December 28, 2018 at 6:04 pm

    Your words and thoughts always makes me want more..

    Liked by 1 person

  79. patti o'malley (@OzoneparkPatti)

    December 30, 2018 at 1:00 am



  80. Kammi Kothmann

    March 9, 2019 at 2:23 pm

    you broke my heart.

    Liked by 2 people

  81. In mind and out

    November 18, 2019 at 10:02 am

    I have followed you for a while now, silently, feeling a little like I’ve been tiptoeing softly, casually pressing ‘like’ when really I adore your writing.. I don’t comment because your words, spoken and written, leave me a little lost for words. I’m not even going to try and articulate it here, not because of not wanting to, but because I’m not sure I can transform that feeling into words.

    Liked by 1 person


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