Incitement to rape?

13 Jul


A young relative of mine was raped some days back.

I have published this post twice before, but it feels like a good time to post it again.


First posted September 1st 2015

Sometimes I get serious

It seems an ageing female rock star recently suggested in an interview with one of our sad excuses for a serious newspaper that women/girls who dress provocatively should expect to be molested – or worse – by men.

I can only believe she was misquoted – I haven’t read the article so I will give her the benefit of the doubt.

But let me be quite clear.

What a woman or girl wears is entirely her business. It can be sexy and revealing. It can be wild and kinky, It can be ‘slutty’ and sultry. It doesn’t matter. It is entirely her choice. It is her choice to make without fear of harassment, without threat of misogyny, without the danger of some sad prick believing it justifies any attention at all beyond silent admiration.

How a woman acts is equally up to her. If she wants to be a vamp. a princess, a tease, or a kitten she can. If she wants to get, drunk, stoned, utterly out of her mind it isn’t a cry for some mindless moron to take advantage of her, or see it as a come-on, or as an excuse to say she has got it coming to her.

So if you are a man who has so little control of himself that he thinks every scantily clad girl acting outrageously gives him the right to force himself on her, then I would suggest chemical castration is probably too good for you.

And if you are a woman who looks down your nose at someone of your own sex who exercises the freedom to be herself, or thinks that girls bring it on themselves, then all you are doing is colluding with the apes.

In a case of rape (or sexual assault) the woman or girl is never, ever at fault.  Even if she changes her mind at the very last minute, that is her prerogative, her choice, her right.  If a man ‘cannot stop himself’ then he is no more than an animal and deserves to be treated like one.

There is never, repeat never, any justification for rape, nor can any action by a woman be considered as incitement.


At some point I shall give my perspective on those who bleat and argue that ‘immodesty among women is against our religion, or is not part of our culture’. Attacking that misogynist, hypocritical, bullying shit deserves a whole post to itself.



© the author writing as Romantic Dominant

Photo taken from Pinterest. Unsure of source. If it is yours please let me know and I will remove or credit.


Posted by on July 13, 2017 in Still Life


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18 responses to “Incitement to rape?

  1. Just_Libby

    July 13, 2017 at 5:53 pm

    I have always admired this post…it’s a sad world we live in when victims are again victimized by the very justice system meant to protect them… most of us no longer report it, no real punishment happens and most come away feeling like just being female makes us responsible for whatever happens to us…
    my heart goes out to your young relation, 😔
    Thank you for sharing such a poignant issue of our times…

    Liked by 1 person

  2. newriter67

    July 13, 2017 at 9:00 pm

    I agree

    Liked by 1 person

  3. House of Heart

    July 13, 2017 at 9:18 pm

    I am so sorry this has happened Mr. D. Thank you for the wonderfully empowering text.

    Liked by 1 person

  4. Cinn

    July 14, 2017 at 2:24 am

    Just love and respect you more. Thank you… and sending love and prayers for your family member

    Liked by 1 person

  5. happyfreeconfusedlonelyatthesametime

    July 14, 2017 at 5:14 am

    Omg how awful! Is she ok?

    Liked by 1 person

    • Romantic Dominant

      July 14, 2017 at 7:58 am

      On the ouside, fine. But who can tell on the inside? Thank you for asking,


  6. shygirl

    July 14, 2017 at 11:05 am

    My heart goes out to your relative. Been there, tough road.
    I love this post… The idea that women are ever ASKING for rape, by clothing or actions, is insane. Thank you for doing your part. 🖤

    Liked by 2 people

    • Romantic Dominant

      July 14, 2017 at 1:52 pm

      Smiles. It is a dreadful crime. And any tiny part I can play is good. Thank you.


  7. gwiddihoo24

    July 14, 2017 at 3:00 pm

    Reblogged this on gwiddihoo24.

    Liked by 1 person

  8. redklwr2006 Kym

    July 15, 2017 at 1:25 am

    My youngest was raped at 14… She did nothing wrong, yet somehow it was her that needed to justify…

    Liked by 1 person

    • Romantic Dominant

      July 15, 2017 at 9:35 am

      I am sorry for her, and you. The system is deeply flawed and attitudes are wrong almost everywhere.



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