International Women’s Day and sexual D/s

08 Mar


Some might have been surprised by my tweet on Twitter earlier today.

Perhaps for a number of readers it might seem an unusual, even an unlikely thing, for a man who is ‘hard wired’ to sexually dominate, control and ‘own’ women to write like this. I shall explain in a moment.

But first of all, why do I find women so incredible?

Basically, because no matter how badly, unfairly, carelessly, cruelly, immorally, and disrespectfully we men have treated women down the centuries, women have not bowed to brutality, persecution, discrimination, patronization, and thoughtlessness. Even when today – even in the so-called ‘first’ world – the situation is still oppressive..

  • The major religions all denigrate, marginalize, and subjugate women to a lesser or greater extent.
  • Pay levels across the globe have been kept universally lower for women. (Even in ‘enlightened’ Hollywood male actors still earn more)
  • Men still occupy the majority of key and middle positions in government and business. There is no real equality of opportunity.
  • Sexual crimes, harassment, intimidation, and sexually inappropriate behaviour are still institutional almost everywhere. The President of the United States is a clear example of it. There is still a belief amongst many men (and sadly some women) that rape can be justified or excused. It can never be under any circumstances. See here.
  • Men are often allowed to walk away from the physical (and often financial) responsibility of fatherhood, expecting woman to rear children. And regardless of whether the man is there or not, the woman is still often expected to take on the majority of childcare, running the house, and to work.

I could go on. Forever. Some things maybe are better now than they were once. But it is truly miserable. And the pace of change is glacial.

But despite everything women have bravely battled and fought, and are still doing so. And they are proving, at last that, if there is a more resourceful, adaptable, intelligent and braver sex – then women are it. Because to succeed in living fulfilling and happy lives in such a misogynist and hostile environment takes far more than most men will ever give credit, or even attempt to understand.

And where does D/s – as it relates to me – sit in all of this?

It has very little to do with it.

Sexual D/s is a consensual act or agreement between two people where one gives up their sexual free will to the other. The reason they do this is because it arouses, excites and completes them. It is the way they both are. Of course a Dominant or a submissive can be a man or a woman and vice versa.

But if there is one thing about D/s that does relate to all I have said in this post, then it is this. If any male Dominant thinks he is somehow above, more important or better than his female submissive then he really needs to take a long hard look at himself.

Because he has clearly lost the plot.

And proved my point.

Women are more than equal to men.



© the author writing as Romantic Dominant

Art from UN International Women’s Day promotional material




Posted by on March 8, 2017 in D/s, Still Life


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37 responses to “International Women’s Day and sexual D/s

  1. Just_Libby

    March 8, 2017 at 8:02 pm

    Got a little teary with this one…

    Liked by 1 person

  2. April

    March 8, 2017 at 8:04 pm

    I agree with you. If taboo is consensual between adults, it is not an affront to feminism, it is feminism enacted in the face of societal pressure to conform to what a woman is, and isn’t, supposed to do and be sexually. D/S is not and should never be degradation…if it is then, by nature, not consensual. As a woman I hate when society decides how a woman “should” behave sexually in order to be taken seriously. Grrrrr….

    Liked by 1 person

    • Romantic Dominant

      March 9, 2017 at 12:00 am

      When feminism become proscriptive it become just another religion. None of us need instruction in how to be ourselves. Smiles.

      Liked by 1 person

  3. gracefulphrase

    March 8, 2017 at 8:11 pm

    Wonderful, I appreciate this greatly

    Liked by 1 person

  4. gwiddihoo24

    March 8, 2017 at 8:24 pm

    Reblogged this on gwiddihoo24.

    Liked by 1 person

  5. feral

    March 8, 2017 at 8:43 pm

    Thank you.

    Liked by 1 person

  6. CuteFaceAI

    March 8, 2017 at 8:56 pm

    My smile is wide, Mr RD, thank you 🙂

    Liked by 1 person

  7. toraprincess

    March 8, 2017 at 10:21 pm

    Doesn’t surprise me at all. I think respect for women shows.

    Liked by 2 people

  8. justagirllost2

    March 9, 2017 at 12:50 am

    Lovely thoughts and I agree with them all, except for a few. You are sorely mistaken concerning the current President, but 100% right concerning the former, Bill Clinton and his utmost contempt for women.

    Thank you for posting your thoughts. 🙂


    • justagirllost2

      March 9, 2017 at 12:18 pm

      and I didn’t mean to be impertinent with my comment. I should have only commented on the beautiful way you acknowledge your admiration of women.


  9. terry1420

    March 9, 2017 at 1:38 am

    I’ve written so many responses and deleted them all. This is a love letter to women and brought tears to my eyes. (Your being a Dominant is icing on a beautiful cake) Thank you .

    Liked by 2 people

  10. Heartafire

    March 9, 2017 at 2:02 am

    Your emotional honesty does not surprise me, you are a man of integrity, a man with a personal code. Thank you for the beautiful message.

    Liked by 3 people

  11. Cinn

    March 9, 2017 at 2:46 am

    Love your words… As always ❤

    Liked by 2 people

  12. roughseasinthemed

    March 9, 2017 at 8:13 am

    That’s a really thoughtful and accurate post. Very pertinent. Thanks for that, appreciated. While I tend to the view that male/female D/s reinforces the patriarchal position, your post leaves me rather more optimistic (which is rare).

    Liked by 1 person

  13. emmylgant

    March 9, 2017 at 9:29 am

    Thank you D for your understanding.
    It is a struggle to claim one”s spot in this world, and to let our souls be heard.

    Liked by 1 person

  14. Elisa Paradis

    March 9, 2017 at 12:29 pm

    Thank you Sir! your writing is always a great gift!

    Liked by 1 person

  15. Entirety in Bits

    March 9, 2017 at 3:01 pm

    Reblogged this on Entirety in Bits and Pieces.

    Liked by 1 person


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