This post is a year old, but I will repeat it every year. Because there will always be stupid people, men and women speaking the same rubbish that Chrissie Hynde (allegedly) spoke twelve months ago.
Sometimes I get serious
It seems an ageing female rock star recently suggested in an interview with one of our sad excuses for a serious newspaper that women/girls who dress provocatively should expect to be molested – or worse – by men.
I can only believe she was misquoted – I haven’t read the article so I will give her the benefit of the doubt.
But let us be quite clear.
What a women or girl wears is entirely her business. It can be sexy and revealing. It can be wild and kinky, It can be ‘slutty’ and sultry. It doesn’t matter. It is entirely her choice. It is her choice to make without fear of harassment, without threat of misogyny, without the danger of some sad prick believing it justifies any attention at all beyond silent admiration.
How a women acts is equally up to her. If she want to be a vamp. a princess, a tease, or a kitten she can. If she wants to get, drunk, stoned, utterly out of her mind it isn’t a cry for some mindless moron to take advantage of her, or see it as a come-on, or as an excuse to say she has got it coming to her.
So if you are a man who has so little control of himself that he thinks every scantily clad girl acting outrageously gives him the right to force himself on her, then I would suggest chemical castration is probably too good for you.
And if you are a woman who looks down your nose at someone of your own sex who exercises the freedom to be herself, or thinks that girls bring it on themselves, then all you are doing is colluding with the apes.
You dear lady, are the one who should be ashamed of herself.
At some point I shall give my perspective on those who bleat that ‘immodesty among women is against our religion, or is not part of our culture’. Attacking that misogynist, hypocritical, bullying shit deserves a whole post to itself.
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© the author writing as Romantic Dominant
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Kendra Lynn
September 9, 2016 at 5:09 pm
THIS!! YES!!!
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Romantic Dominant
September 9, 2016 at 5:38 pm
Thank you.
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hisalone2016
September 9, 2016 at 5:10 pm
*stands and applauds*
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Romantic Dominant
September 9, 2016 at 5:38 pm
Smiles
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Heartafire
September 9, 2016 at 5:32 pm
Hear Hear!
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Romantic Dominant
September 9, 2016 at 5:38 pm
Thank you
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AmyRose🌹
September 9, 2016 at 7:10 pm
Brava!! I’m nearing 60 and in the summer dress with as little as possible on. You would not believe the looks I get from women. It’s disgusting! And if a man even steps my way, I have Martial Arts training. Just saying’ ….. 🙂 ❤
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AmyRose🌹
September 9, 2016 at 7:11 pm
PS And I LOVE to dress sexy at times and oh heaves where cool makeup on my face that says WOW! I am a woman!!! 🙂
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Romantic Dominant
September 9, 2016 at 9:49 pm
Absolutely. Smiles.
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Romantic Dominant
September 9, 2016 at 9:49 pm
Smiles. Indeed.
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roughseasinthemed
September 9, 2016 at 7:32 pm
I agree. And as a newly released report in the UK shows an increase in sexual crimes, I wrote about it this week. It’s not something people are comfortable talking about.
There is only ever one person to blame for crimes of rape and sexual assault. It is ridiculous end redolent of our patriarchal society that we even consider victim blaming and shaming.
And on patriarchal society and women’s position in that, I do question why women dress the way they do. We are conditioned from birth that our role in life is to please the men, in whatever way.
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Romantic Dominant
September 9, 2016 at 9:56 pm
I don’t believe that women always dress to please men, though clearly they often do. I believe many women dress in a way that makes them feel good. And to impress other women. But what do I know? Smiles. But regardless of the reason why any woman should dress in any particular way, it is her absolute right to do so without fear of molestation.
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catlady66
September 9, 2016 at 9:59 pm
Love this. Thank you x
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Romantic Dominant
September 9, 2016 at 10:01 pm
Smiles. Thank you.
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emmylgant
September 9, 2016 at 11:49 pm
Applause and cheering. Big grin
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Romantic Dominant
September 10, 2016 at 8:24 am
Big smiles
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Liras
September 10, 2016 at 10:15 am
We are supposed to rise above our savage natures and understand we cannot have everything we see, just because it appeals to us.
I understand the spirit of what she meant, although the choice of words were off. (It seems she came at it from standpoint of ‘this is what it is, not what it should be, so, x, and z.) It is her memoir and her opinion.
Her follow up: https://www.washingtonpost.com/goingoutguide/music/chrissie-hynde-no-regrets-about-rape-comments/2015/09/03/de321e0c-5277-11e5-8c19-0b6825aa4a3a_story.html
We are changing perceptions about women who are dressed sexily are not dressing that way to get attention from everyone. The goal is to teach people that women can wear what they want and it is improper to get in their way, jabbering and leering. Or sneering and snorting.
Western cultures are better at loudly saying the point. The rest of the world is hit or miss, as it tends to be more about ‘honor’ of the males of the family than the integrity inherent in women.
Things improve as we go on. Sometimes, way too slowly, however.
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Romantic Dominant
September 10, 2016 at 10:21 am
Smiles. Yes. Far too slowly.
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Violet Spirit
September 12, 2016 at 7:09 am
Thank you, Sir.
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Romantic Dominant
September 12, 2016 at 9:00 am
Smiles. No thanks required
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