Letting go

15 May


There is a poem by my favourite poet Dylan Thomas which begins:

Do not go gentle into that good night,
Old age should burn and rave at close of day;
Rage, rage against the dying of the light.

It is popularly believed to be an exhortation to his father to fight against death.

My mother needed no such urging. She fought it tooth and nail.

Even when her body was but skin and bone. Even when she had morphed from a human being into a tiny bird lying broken on a wide expanse of white bed. Even when she had slipped into an unconscious state tn which she appeared to recognise no one. Even when she could not even take water, except to wet her thin lips. Even when it seemed impossible that she could still be alive.

She steadfastly refused to let to go. Brave, stubborn, tenacious, determined. And thoroughly unpredictable. My mother facing her demise the way she had lived.

Her children and her late-in-life-lover maintained a vigil that extended long beyond the expectations of medical staff. There was nothing we could do but hold her hand and helplessly bear witness to her last battle.

She most certainly raged against the dying of the light.

Until this morning.

When she finally, peacefully, let go.



© the author writing as Romantic Dominant

Art by Andrew Wyeth




Posted by on May 15, 2016 in Poetry, Still Life


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32 responses to “Letting go

  1. saffy

    May 15, 2016 at 4:29 pm

    Words do not suffice but know you are in my thoughts.

    Liked by 1 person

  2. April

    May 15, 2016 at 4:40 pm

    I have carried in me thoughts and feelings of life and death today as well, and now thoughts and feelings of you co-mingle with them. A woman to learn from, your mother. There is beauty in tenacity, there is such life in the wrestling with death. And to have you speak of her with such authenticity, may we all have someone who notices us in the same way you noticed her. Blessed Be.

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  3. missameliaandsir

    May 15, 2016 at 5:07 pm

    Feel the love being sent your way Sir. 💋

    Liked by 1 person

  4. sweetcreature

    May 15, 2016 at 5:17 pm

    This make me so sad… But is the law of live and we do wathever is necesary to maintain… Until the last breath… All my thoughts with you…


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  5. angael2000 (@angael2000)

    May 15, 2016 at 6:50 pm

    My thoughts and prayers are with you at this difficult time. She must have been an amazing woman.

    Liked by 1 person

  6. what sandra thinks

    May 16, 2016 at 12:07 am

    So very sorry for your loss.

    Liked by 1 person

  7. missmirthe

    May 16, 2016 at 12:39 am

    Beautiful, a like seemed ill-placed.very sorry for your loss

    Liked by 1 person

  8. rita g (@TheReturnofRita)

    May 16, 2016 at 1:09 am

    I am so sorry for your loss. My mother, like yours, was alive even in the sparest state, until the very end. While it seems you savor life, and don’t need an inspiration to eat it whole, the way my mother confronted death made me realize that life should be devoured. First there is grief, and then, welcome to the feast.

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  9. Bev L

    May 16, 2016 at 1:25 am

    Dear R.D.,So sorry to hear of your Mother’s passing…praying for you and for all her loved ones…Sincerely,~bev.

    Date: Sun, 15 May 2016 14:52:07 +0000 To:

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  10. Marina Jovan

    May 16, 2016 at 2:22 am

    Though these comforts by measure are weak tokens to the heaviness you bear, I hope you find in them even the smallest reprieve. Her immortality in the seeds her light has entrusted and sown. May they be fruitful evermore.

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  11. justagirllost2

    May 16, 2016 at 3:59 am

    Your words touch my soul and though I’ve not lost a parent, my heart deeply hurts for your loss. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers ❤️

    Liked by 1 person

  12. Heartafire

    May 16, 2016 at 4:26 am

    Please accept my deepest condolences in the loss of your mother. You are in my thoughts at this very sad time.

    Liked by 1 person

  13. blissfulmoments

    May 16, 2016 at 9:33 pm

    She’s in a better place….My condolences!

    Liked by 1 person

  14. sweetsilverkitten

    May 17, 2016 at 3:38 am

    My condolences to you, RD.

    Liked by 1 person

  15. emmylgant

    May 17, 2016 at 10:54 am

    To be a motherless child is a new loneliness and sorrow. My gentlest thoughts are with you.

    Liked by 1 person

  16. dievca

    June 6, 2016 at 6:10 pm

    Oh, I am sorry. Something I will be experience soon. May I learn from your grace.

    Liked by 1 person


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