It is not his complete control over her that makes her afraid.
Indeed, that does not frighten her at all.
She loves the power of his Domination, the certainty of his authority, the calm, confident assured voice that instructs and guides her.
No, what scares her most is his total control over himself.
Because she knows it gives her no hold,
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© the author writing as Romantic Dominant
Art by Thomas Saliot
A Faded Romantic's Notebook 
thesacredroad
March 29, 2013 at 4:36 pm
shivers of the most delicious kind. x
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Romantic Dominant
March 29, 2013 at 4:38 pm
Smiles. Thank you.
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Sisyphus47
March 29, 2013 at 4:44 pm
Such depth… but of course she does, she does not know how yet 😉
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Romantic Dominant
March 29, 2013 at 4:45 pm
Ah. Perceptive. Thank you.
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bcrcrider
March 29, 2013 at 5:05 pm
Or so he thinks…
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Romantic Dominant
March 29, 2013 at 5:07 pm
Smiles. It is never known until tested.
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hotlilmess
March 29, 2013 at 5:09 pm
Biting lip. How do You do it.
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Romantic Dominant
March 29, 2013 at 5:11 pm
I’m not sure what I do, but glad you enjoy
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Jennifer Adams Teasley
March 29, 2013 at 5:10 pm
There is a good deal of difference between a man who wants to be a dominant, and one who naturally is. You seem to understand that well. The man who can control mentally, has all control…In the mind is where the true relationship begins.
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Romantic Dominant
March 29, 2013 at 5:15 pm
I hope I understand it – although it is instinctive. And as one fades, the power of the mind becomes more important still. I have been fortunate.
Thank you for reading and commenting.
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sharronkelley
March 29, 2013 at 5:21 pm
I know this is how it works. But I can’t help but relate to her fear…..because she seems to be the one who is most vulnerable.
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Romantic Dominant
March 29, 2013 at 5:27 pm
And yet it doesn’t necessarily work the way you suggest. As in any relationship, the true power resides in the one who is in control of their feelings. The D/s dynamic does not necessarily determine which it is.
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Maggie Carpenter
March 29, 2013 at 5:57 pm
This is brilliant D. And I will be reblogging. Thank you.
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Romantic Dominant
March 29, 2013 at 6:28 pm
Thank you. I am honoured.
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sometimes
March 29, 2013 at 6:09 pm
That is a true fear that I have felt and has come to fruition before. It is sweet and alluring for awhile, but becomes difficult very quickly. I find that I need reciprocation, even a little, otherwise it is too painful… and not in a good way. 😉 My heart is stronger than it used to be, but perhaps will always be too tender. I love the picture, it is haunting…like the idea in the poem.
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Romantic Dominant
March 29, 2013 at 6:32 pm
And yet it is not a lack of reciprocation of feeling, it is more the capability of not fearing loss. It is hard to describe.
Thank you for reading and your kind comment.
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sometimes
March 29, 2013 at 6:39 pm
To quote another, “always a pleasure.” 🙂 Not fearing loss of what? Love, control, desire…? Loss is inevitable I guess, no fear of it is admirable, perhaps true freedom.
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Romantic Dominant
March 29, 2013 at 6:43 pm
Not ‘no fear’ – only ‘less fear’. And the loss is of another, them being no longer in your life, no longer loving you.
‘No fear’ is hard to imagine .
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sometimes
March 29, 2013 at 6:51 pm
I can almost imagine it, but the consequences produce more fear, never ending cycle I guess. I guess I will always want (need?) something to hold on to…whether it is actually there in reality or not. Sigh….thanks for elaborating and chatting, I enjoy it.
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Romantic Dominant
March 29, 2013 at 6:52 pm
Smiles.
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Magenta Nero
March 30, 2013 at 12:35 am
insightful and intriguing..it scratches a very sensitive surface and I have been thinking about all that lies beneath it..
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Romantic Dominant
March 30, 2013 at 10:32 am
Thank you. I hope your thinking leads to revelation.
Smiles
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The Green Eyed Geisha
March 30, 2013 at 3:32 am
Rather, she knows it gives her no more excuses …. on why she wont submit. 🙂 Lovely as always … I could get lost in this blog for hours.
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Romantic Dominant
March 30, 2013 at 10:33 am
Thank you. It would be my pleasure for you to become lost in it.
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emmylgant
March 30, 2013 at 8:09 am
Beautiful and it feels so…what? I am afraid to give it words, then it will become real and personal.
What scares her the most….
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Romantic Dominant
March 30, 2013 at 10:35 am
Thank you. It touched me after I wrote it, if that makes sense.
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emmylgant
March 30, 2013 at 7:23 pm
Yes it does.
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butterflyx3
March 30, 2013 at 8:13 am
Oh the control
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Romantic Dominant
March 30, 2013 at 10:35 am
Smiles
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janineyork
March 30, 2013 at 10:22 am
You are right, this is something that I am afraid of. Losing control of my emotions with someone who has not lost control of his own. I like to lose control together. Perhaps one of those self imposed limitations that you spoke of. Perhaps just self preservation.
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Romantic Dominant
March 30, 2013 at 10:36 am
Perhaps.
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mlbk7
March 30, 2013 at 2:26 pm
I believe she is a strong submissive who has come to the point of surrender, she loves, fears, trusts and respects her Dominant. He has come to terms with it but his only fear is himself; his confidence and his ability to keep her and satisfy her. He needs to get over himself and focus her now that he has her.
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Romantic Dominant
March 30, 2013 at 2:30 pm
With respect, you have no idea whatsoever.
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mlbk7
March 30, 2013 at 3:07 pm
True. It was simply my fictional interpretation. Not intending to be personal or disrespectful. I apologize.
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Romantic Dominant
April 5, 2013 at 6:47 pm
It was nothing. Long since forgotten. Smiles.
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Heartafire
April 2, 2013 at 5:34 pm
missing you, Mr. D.
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mlbk7
April 2, 2013 at 7:25 pm
Me too.
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hotlilmess
April 2, 2013 at 7:25 pm
Me too.
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Romantic Dominant
April 5, 2013 at 9:43 pm
Still smiling
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Romantic Dominant
April 5, 2013 at 9:42 pm
Smiling.
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Romantic Dominant
April 5, 2013 at 9:42 pm
Warm glow
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justagirllost2
January 15, 2016 at 5:13 pm
This is fascinating. Wouldn’t it come down to belief in self? Once a person has crossed that bridge of self-love, so to speak, the pain of rejection or abandonment no longer controls their destiny.
In my own experience at least. I really enjoy going through your archives,
Always fascinating and educational 🌹
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Romantic Dominant
January 15, 2016 at 10:47 pm
Smiles. Thank you.
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Leslie Meeks
May 17, 2016 at 2:23 am
This is one I have never read before. No truer words.
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Romantic Dominant
May 17, 2016 at 11:10 am
Smiles. Thank you
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hisalone2016
September 4, 2016 at 2:42 am
Indeed.
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Romantic Dominant
September 4, 2016 at 11:33 am
Smiles
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