The true gift of a woman’s sexual submission is of value beyond measure.
It is not about the ill-informed clichés of inconsequential mummy-porn. It is not about the feeble wet dreams of pimply schoolboys. It is not about the vivid imaginings of hungry women in need of better sex. It is not about the testosterone-fuelled wishful fantasies of adult men who will never become mentally fully grown.
It is not another excuse for self-titled dominants to bully, humiliate, disrespect, brutalize or subjugate purely to satisfy their own misogynist needs.
The gift of submission is more than corporeal, greater than physical.
It is the conscious yielding up of sexual free will to serve another. It is given because the ache, the longing, the overwhelming desire to submit is in her soul. It is given because, bestowed upon the right man, she knows she will be excited, enlightened, satisfied and sexually aroused and deeply fulfilled.
In return the Dominant will respect and nurture her. He will give her protection. He will be her guide, mentor, and master. He will provide discipline and strength. He will create a framework in which she can grow, flourish and explore her own sexuality.
He will throw a secure and safe cloak about her shoulders.
He will make her proud and happy – and blessed – that she has given herself to him.
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© the author writing as Romantic Dominant.
Photo belongs to the lovely Ami-S
A Faded Romantic's Notebook 
Bad Penny
November 21, 2012 at 3:30 pm
Are you testing me to see if I remember our first conversation? I do, Sir. -winks- Do you… ?
All kidding aside… hammer+nail= You hit it right on the head.
I feel like such a stalker! I swear my rss feed makes me do it. -snickers-
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Romantic Dominant
November 21, 2012 at 3:35 pm
Laughing. I never forget anything. I don’t mind a little stalking. As long as the stalker is female and as long as my rabbit (of the mammalian variety) remains unboiled.
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Isabella
November 21, 2012 at 3:42 pm
Lmao 🙂
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Romantic Dominant
November 21, 2012 at 3:45 pm
Cynical girl.
Smiles
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Isabella
November 21, 2012 at 8:01 pm
Uh uh….your answer was funny : >
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Romantic Dominant
November 21, 2012 at 8:11 pm
That is because I didn’t look to see what you were saying lmao about!
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Isabella
November 21, 2012 at 8:02 pm
And the piece…I absolutely loved.
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Romantic Dominant
November 21, 2012 at 8:11 pm
I am pleased. Truly.
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Bad Penny
November 21, 2012 at 3:45 pm
Most any boiled meat tastes bland, so no worries. I like my meat well seasoned, and preserved. -grins- And I’m a girl, so consider yourself slightly stalked, but I’m still blaming my RSS feed. It makes me feel better inside. -snickers-
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Romantic Dominant
November 21, 2012 at 3:47 pm
Slightly stalked is bearable I suppose. I blame the dew on your thighs.
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Bad Penny
November 21, 2012 at 3:49 pm
Well… I blame you for that. Reference above. and above that, and then on up to the original dew point, Sir. -smiles innocently-
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Maggie Carpenter
November 21, 2012 at 3:31 pm
This post Sir, is exquisite in it’s perfection. It is tragic that so few ( it appears) truly know. The submissive that lives within me is shedding her tears of frustration, her gift having been left unopened for so long….
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Romantic Dominant
November 21, 2012 at 3:36 pm
Thank you for the compliment.
A shame that such a beautiful gift should be un-bestowed.
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Romantic Dominant
November 21, 2012 at 3:37 pm
An honour. Thank you.
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thesacredroad
November 21, 2012 at 3:38 pm
This is beyond my realm if words. Exquisite. Beautiful. An ardent dream. Thank you for sharing your words. They truly resonate. Xxx
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Romantic Dominant
November 21, 2012 at 3:39 pm
Thank you for reading.
Smiles
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surrenderedone
November 21, 2012 at 3:43 pm
This is the most…..astute and truly accurate description of sexual submission I have ever read. It is exactly how it feels when it is real.
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Romantic Dominant
November 21, 2012 at 3:45 pm
I am glad.
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mlbk7
November 21, 2012 at 3:50 pm
“It is given because the ache, the longing, the overwhelming desire to submit is in her soul.” Never a more true or profound statement. This is the heart of submission. Just beautiful. M
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Romantic Dominant
November 21, 2012 at 3:51 pm
Thank you. I am pleased it touches a chord
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Romantic Dominant
November 21, 2012 at 3:51 pm
Ah. I am honoured. Thank you.
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Romantic Dominant
November 21, 2012 at 4:51 pm
Truly honoured.
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pivoine68
November 21, 2012 at 4:42 pm
The way that you describe submission makes me yearn for it, as if it is what has been missing all along.
Congratulations for making the Top 100 Sex Blog List! Champagne is in order. (pour me a full coupe, I’m a little bitter that I’m not on it! just kidding, disappointed I guess.)
Je t’embrasse,
Dawn
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Romantic Dominant
November 21, 2012 at 4:56 pm
Perhaps it is what is missing…
The Sex Blog award thing (although delighted to be included) is a little strange. Am I really a Sex blogger? I fear that what I write is a little dry.
Whereas when you write with purpose – it is decidedly sensual. Anyway. A glass of red wine for me in an hour or so. Your champagne is just going on the ice. Put on your sexiest gown.
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pivoine68
November 21, 2012 at 5:03 pm
I really like that idea.
I was asking myself the same question, once I had swallowed my initial heart break, do I really write a sex blog? Maybe not. Oh well, c’est la vie! I think I’ll slip on that sexy gown now. I’m sure that you could help me can get over this slight deception! 😉
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Romantic Dominant
November 21, 2012 at 5:06 pm
At your service … Well actually the other way round.
Imagining the gown …
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pivoine68
November 21, 2012 at 5:08 pm
Mmmmmm! A Cross-Channel Sexy Vibration. Mini-Tsunami.
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Romantic Dominant
November 21, 2012 at 5:10 pm
I felt it.
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Joseph McNamara
November 21, 2012 at 4:43 pm
Bravo ! A wonderful and loving look at what this life-style should and can be…….
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Romantic Dominant
November 21, 2012 at 4:57 pm
Thank you. It is but my perspective.
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Romantic Dominant
November 21, 2012 at 5:10 pm
Thank you. A real honour
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jadecaryade
November 21, 2012 at 5:11 pm
Amen. I’m sharing this, if you don’t mind.
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Romantic Dominant
November 21, 2012 at 5:11 pm
Delighted
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Bad Penny
November 21, 2012 at 5:17 pm
You really should twitter, Sir. Your post is blowing up all over my feed. -smiles- But I could just keep you informed. -winks-
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Romantic Dominant
November 21, 2012 at 5:21 pm
For a moment I thought that ‘blowing up all over my feed’ might be a euphemism – a delightful thought. I have thought about tweeting – I have set up an account – but I considered the tumbleweed of no followers…
But your commentary is not unwelcome.
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genevievedewey
November 21, 2012 at 5:26 pm
I can second Penny, and elaborate my certainty that you would have a great number of followers.
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Romantic Dominant
November 21, 2012 at 5:29 pm
Thank you. It is a daunting step for a man who has grown up with the luxury of the blog. One hundred and forty characters … Perhaps one day, when life is quieter.
But thanks again
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Bad Penny
November 21, 2012 at 5:34 pm
You really think you wouldn’t have followers?
Sir…I’m going to be a bit rude. Are you daft? Have you bumped your head? Maybe I should take care of you, you seem not well.
You would have followers. Holy Toledo Batman– You would have followers, Sir. Four comments here today came from people on my twitter feed.
Now…on to your cheekiness. I’d blow up, or you up anytime. -winks-
A very Bad Penny
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Romantic Dominant
November 21, 2012 at 5:40 pm
Precocious child. Others have been chastised for less.
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Bad Penny
November 21, 2012 at 5:43 pm
Child implies I’m not of legal age, and I have no idea of the consequences it could involve. I’m well over the age of legal, very aware, and still poking the bear. Poke. Poke.
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Romantic Dominant
November 21, 2012 at 5:47 pm
Smiling. It is fortunate for you that you hail from the southern States
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Bad Penny
November 21, 2012 at 5:57 pm
You say potato, i say po-ta-tO
I see it as a true misfortune, Sir.
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Lisa Marie
November 21, 2012 at 6:00 pm
You would love it… be careful – it is addictive – I was on for just over a month and had to quit as it was getting in the way of where my focus should have been. It did inspire connection and stimulation which is always great for motivating the inspiration.
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Romantic Dominant
November 21, 2012 at 6:03 pm
Yes, I fear the potentially addictive nature as much as the empty feed.
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Lisa Marie
November 21, 2012 at 6:10 pm
With your words and your style I doubt very much that your feed would be empty. Once you get to the right people you’ll find you won’t be able to keep up.
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Romantic Dominant
November 21, 2012 at 6:11 pm
It is a thought.
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Leslie Meeks
April 22, 2015 at 11:05 pm
Aren’t you glad you joined! You would have missed out on meeting so many people. See.. Twitter does have it’s advantages. Smiles
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Romantic Dominant
April 22, 2015 at 11:10 pm
Some, I admit. Smiles.
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Leslie Meeks
April 22, 2015 at 11:12 pm
Well I’m glad you did or I would have never stumbled upon you. Smiles
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Evelyn
November 21, 2012 at 6:26 pm
me too. get on twitter now. I need more of you.
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Romantic Dominant
November 21, 2012 at 6:28 pm
Sweet girl
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Lisa Marie
November 21, 2012 at 6:08 pm
The sound of your words are perfectly tuned to the tone of your temptation and you balanced the primal conditions beautifully.
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Romantic Dominant
November 21, 2012 at 6:10 pm
Thank you for reading and commenting. I appreciate it.
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Evelyn
November 21, 2012 at 6:23 pm
I am so happy that my feelings on my own submissive nature have been carved and shaped by your definition. youve given me such a gift, all these years now. I just cant love you and thank you enough for giving me that gift.
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Romantic Dominant
November 21, 2012 at 6:27 pm
Ah Evelyn. It is a joy for me to ba able to give such a gift. I think that you were the first writer I ever followed on here – and I don’t follow so many (it is a time thing , not one of talent or respect – it exists on wordpress in abundance). I admired your skill with words, your sometimes visceral approach, and your all round sweetness. I’m glad.
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gemini
November 21, 2012 at 6:24 pm
Perfectly put and so true ….
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Romantic Dominant
November 21, 2012 at 6:28 pm
Thank you. I’m grateful for your words
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bcrcrider
November 21, 2012 at 7:19 pm
Amen indeed.
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Romantic Dominant
November 21, 2012 at 8:17 pm
Smiles. Thanks for reading
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theredvelvetchair
November 21, 2012 at 7:40 pm
What a beautifully written truth. You, Sir, have captured in eloquence, what so many long to say but have not the words to do so. Xo
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Romantic Dominant
November 21, 2012 at 8:18 pm
Ah, the curse of words. Sometimes they are not seen beyond
Thank you. I appreciate your reading and commenting.
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TheOthers1
November 21, 2012 at 8:42 pm
You said it perfectly. I love that last line.
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Romantic Dominant
November 21, 2012 at 8:44 pm
Thank you. It is the most important of all.
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The Green Eyed Geisha
November 21, 2012 at 10:35 pm
Lovely … made me smile.
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Romantic Dominant
November 22, 2012 at 8:13 pm
With that sensual mouth
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The Green Eyed Geisha
November 23, 2012 at 6:22 am
🙂 Yes, with my mouth
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Mave
November 21, 2012 at 10:50 pm
This is so well written, it such a beautiful and apt way to express it.
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Romantic Dominant
November 22, 2012 at 8:13 pm
Thank you for reading and commenting
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roxiefox
November 22, 2012 at 12:50 am
Beautifully put and applies to submissive males also!
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Romantic Dominant
November 22, 2012 at 8:15 pm
Smiling. I am sure, but did not want to write of that which I had no knowledge. Thanks for reading.
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Heartafire
November 22, 2012 at 1:54 am
Exquitely painful, I am blown away by this…wonderful writing.
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Romantic Dominant
November 22, 2012 at 8:16 pm
Not too painful I hope.
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Heartafire
November 22, 2012 at 8:18 pm
not too…very intriguing!
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Romantic Dominant
November 22, 2012 at 10:16 pm
Intriguing?
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Heartafire
November 23, 2012 at 10:46 pm
very much so.
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Heartafire
November 23, 2012 at 10:46 pm
very enjoyable reading!
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Romantic Dominant
November 23, 2012 at 10:49 pm
Thank you. Gorgeous hair.
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Heartafire
November 23, 2012 at 10:54 pm
Thank you so much!
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Heartafire
November 22, 2012 at 2:31 am
Would love to reblog this to blog with your permission, please let me know if it would be okay
Heart.
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Romantic Dominant
November 22, 2012 at 8:16 pm
Of course you may. I would be delighted.
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Romantic Dominant
November 22, 2012 at 8:17 pm
An honour. My thanks.
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Romantic Dominant
November 22, 2012 at 8:18 pm
Honoured. Thank you.
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MaríMar
November 22, 2012 at 3:04 am
I almost forgot what I was going to say because I got lost in the comments… Very entertaining. 🙂
Ok back to my original thought. Beautiful post, love the sentiment. Thank you.
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Romantic Dominant
November 22, 2012 at 8:19 pm
It is I who must thank you for reading and commenting.
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Kayla Lords
November 22, 2012 at 3:21 am
Yes, yes, and yes. Every word you write is true. And the pain of losing that is worse than any other broken heart I’ve ever experienced…
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Romantic Dominant
November 22, 2012 at 8:19 pm
I’m sorry your heart was broken so badly. I hope someone will mend it one day.
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loneyheart
November 22, 2012 at 1:20 pm
eloquent as always. You leave words on a page that slip easily into ones heart. They say with such grace all that i have longed to express. So i hope that you will not mind if i share them? Then maybe the totality of my heart will finally be understood.
I beg that you never stop writing such words of beauty. for few truly understand the submissive soul.
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Romantic Dominant
November 22, 2012 at 8:21 pm
Of course I do not mind you sharing them. I would be delighted. The submissive soul is an eloquent one and never ceases to enrapture me.
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ElementalEloquence
November 22, 2012 at 2:34 pm
May I reblog this post? It rings true and should be shared… btw-I have something you should read – The Blue Cloak – so fitting with this expressive post.
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Romantic Dominant
November 22, 2012 at 8:22 pm
You may of course. I would be delighted. And I will read as soon as life gives me the time enough to digest.
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Heartafire
November 22, 2012 at 8:21 pm
Reblogged this on House of Heart.
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Romantic Dominant
November 22, 2012 at 8:23 pm
I am honoured. My thanks.
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mirabella
November 27, 2012 at 4:30 am
Reblogged this on una tentazi one and commented:
bellissima… His words, my heart
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Romantic Dominant
November 27, 2012 at 8:12 am
And again!
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mirabella
November 27, 2012 at 4:33 am
your words … your words. i have none to offer to do justice. bellissima as always. honor to read…Grazie for sharing. humbly, Bxx
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Romantic Dominant
November 27, 2012 at 8:13 am
Your attention is praise enough. Thank you.
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mirabella
November 27, 2012 at 8:26 am
u do realize ur words are … so amny adjectives fit … seductive, captivating, scintillating … engrossing, enrapturing … shall i go on?
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Romantic Dominant
November 27, 2012 at 8:28 am
Ah lovely Mirabella. If I blushed, I would.
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mirabella
November 27, 2012 at 9:20 am
that’s my job … so i may …just because I know I wear the color well.
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Romantic Dominant
November 27, 2012 at 9:22 am
I am sure you wear it delightfully
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mirabella
November 27, 2012 at 9:37 am
the rose hue spread … tickling her cheeks. rush of delightful flush
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Romantic Dominant
November 27, 2012 at 3:00 pm
I will imagine.
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Ethan
November 27, 2012 at 5:26 am
Very nice.
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Romantic Dominant
November 27, 2012 at 8:13 am
Thank you
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Charron's Chatter
November 29, 2012 at 6:08 pm
wow. how come you know this and so many don’t? You are perceptive beyond measure.
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Romantic Dominant
November 29, 2012 at 6:30 pm
I don’t know about perception. It is only what is hard-wired into me, and the product of love and experience.
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bymyfingernails
December 1, 2012 at 4:30 pm
I may simply be echoing the many comments above but feel the need to say as a submissive girl that I am astounded by your ability to put words to something in a way I have struggled to for some time. If you read my very few posts you will see this is a topic I haven’t even brushed on yet. Simply because I can’t find the words to say what I want to. It’ll happen.
I have met a lot of men claiming to be Dominants. Few truly are. I see in you what I look for myself. A strong man who understands that subs are soft needy creatures who need love and discipline in balance. The physical is secondary to the mental and emotional. And also that being sub doesn’t make someone weak. It actually requires a great deal of self awareness and strength to trust someone enough to give up control to Him while still retaining your power and self.
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Romantic Dominant
December 1, 2012 at 5:20 pm
Thank you for complimentary comment. You are actually wrong about your inability to find the words to say what you want to say about D/s. You say it perfectly in the second paragraph.
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beccyjo
December 3, 2012 at 12:00 pm
Reblogged this on Submissive Musings and commented:
Beautifully put.
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Romantic Dominant
December 3, 2012 at 5:41 pm
Thank you for the re-blog. I am honoured.
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butterflyx3
December 5, 2012 at 9:44 pm
You have put it beautifully.
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Romantic Dominant
December 6, 2012 at 8:20 pm
Smiles. Thank you.
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adomsdream
December 6, 2012 at 12:43 pm
Couldn’t have said this better, Ty.
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S
December 25, 2012 at 6:22 pm
Thank you for the gift of your words. I hope it inspires others in their own personal journeys.
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Romantic Dominant
December 26, 2012 at 9:29 am
Thank you for visiting, and your words
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ineedyoutoneedme
January 4, 2013 at 1:02 am
Reblogged this on I NEED YOU TO NEED ME.
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Romantic Dominant
January 5, 2013 at 11:19 am
An honour. Thank you
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The Village - BDSM Chat at Sizzling Chat
January 12, 2013 at 7:51 am
Reblogged this on thevillagesizzlingchat and commented:
this blog post is very true in my thoughts, thank you, its beautifully written, i thought The Village Blog readers would enjoy it.
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The Village - BDSM Chat at Sizzling Chat
January 12, 2013 at 9:11 am
i have reblogged this on O/our chat rooms blog, thank You Sir.
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Romantic Dominant
January 12, 2013 at 11:30 am
Thank you. I am honoured.
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skseibel
January 30, 2013 at 7:41 pm
This touches the heart of my own desire – written so beautifully, it is even more seductive.
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Romantic Dominant
January 30, 2013 at 7:58 pm
Thank you. D/s is a deeply seductive and erotic … religion is probably the word I would use. Once experienced by two souls whose needs are met perfectly, it is hard to ever return to a grey vanilla world
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Romantic Dominant
January 1, 2015 at 6:44 pm
Reblogged this on A Faded Romantic's Notebook and commented:
I perhaps should begin the year with a brand new piece. But I have never been able to write to order. Sometimes the muse inside me is quiet. Instead I have reposted what has, to date, been my most popular post in the Notebook. Certainly in terms of views and also, I think, in number of comments.
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rasantiago58
January 1, 2015 at 7:05 pm
Thank you for reposting. This is exquisitely seductive, erotic. This ignites a fire deep inside of me. Happy New Year
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Romantic Dominant
January 1, 2015 at 7:06 pm
I am always pleased to light a fire. Happy New Year.
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newsubmissivestranger
January 1, 2015 at 7:10 pm
Beautiful and true, and how fitting for the New Year
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Romantic Dominant
January 1, 2015 at 7:11 pm
Thank you. I am glad you think it so
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lesliemeeks
January 1, 2015 at 7:14 pm
I get so entertained reading everyone’s comments. This was beautiful to read RD. Oh, I’m glad you finally found your way to twitter or I would have never discovered you. Smiles
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Romantic Dominant
January 2, 2015 at 9:18 am
Smiling. It took me a while to decide to use Twitter. I still feel that I am an outsider there.
I am glad you enjoyed.
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lesliemeeks
January 2, 2015 at 4:51 pm
You’re far from an outsider on twitter. Just look at your followers. Smiles
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Romantic Dominant
January 2, 2015 at 5:14 pm
Laughing. Ah but I quietly keep to myself.
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lesliemeeks
January 2, 2015 at 5:17 pm
Laughing. What I’m I going to do with you?
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Romantic Dominant
January 2, 2015 at 5:18 pm
Smiles
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Dana Renee
January 1, 2015 at 7:39 pm
To find someone worthy of the gift of submission … do you have a post for that impossibility? 😉
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Romantic Dominant
January 2, 2015 at 9:18 am
Ah, finding worthy partners is hardest of all
Smiles
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dievca
January 2, 2015 at 3:34 am
Happy New Year! The old brings the new gliding through. It was a pleasure to read about something M. and I discussed today. Great Minds… 🙂
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Romantic Dominant
January 2, 2015 at 9:16 am
Smiles. Happy New Year!
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