07 Aug

As a romantic Dominant I have little interest in women, let alone submissive women, who are without intelligence and perception.

I also have no interest in the tired clichés of much of BDSM with its endless petty rules and its insistence on the often mute obedience of the submissive.

The gift of submission should only be given out of respect. That respect must be earned. Without revealing his thoughts, desires and motives, what arouses, what captivates, what compels him, he should not be able to win her trust and acquiescence.

A romantic D/s relationship  is only truly rewarding when the submissive has intellect and sensitivity and yields herself up, mind and body, through a desire to please (and to fulfill her own needs) brought about by an understanding of he who would master her.

Originally posted in my Shadows & Dancers blog


Posted by on August 7, 2012 in D/s, Erotica


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22 responses to “Respect

  1. D

    August 7, 2012 at 11:13 am

    So are you retiring from everything? Or merely between…assignments?


    • Romantic Dominant

      August 7, 2012 at 11:24 am

      Smiles. If you mean work, then I am not old enough, nor quite wealthy enough, to retire. If you mean lovers, then I would be very surprised if there are others. I am no longer seeking.
      But who knows – one last fiery passion may yet fill these pages.


      • mybhumi

        August 8, 2012 at 2:13 am

        it’s seems better off to just stop seeking lovers. people are all illusions anyway, probably none of us can form an ever lasting passionate relationship. You start it, then eventually you move on. Maybe it just becomes too old eventually, and you realize that it just doesn’t matter anymore.


        • Romantic Dominant

          August 9, 2012 at 7:14 am

          ‘Lasting’ and ‘passionate’ are the hardest two to combine.


  2. TheOthers1

    August 7, 2012 at 11:24 am

    Communication is what this sounds like. It’s not a real relationship with out it.


    • Romantic Dominant

      August 7, 2012 at 11:26 am



  3. lunargirl

    August 7, 2012 at 11:25 am

    I loved it before, even more so now. You are exactly right, of course.



    • Romantic Dominant

      August 7, 2012 at 11:27 am

      Thank you. And lovely to hear from you again.


  4. mlbk7

    August 7, 2012 at 1:20 pm

    Very Beautiful reflection and imagery.


    • Romantic Dominant

      August 7, 2012 at 4:39 pm

      Thank you


  5. pivoine68

    August 7, 2012 at 3:19 pm

    I get the feeling that under some kind of media-hype induced frenzy, there are all kinds of behaviors being tossed into the BDSM pot. Some of them are probably just abusive. You are right to remind your readers of some of the fundaments…



    • Romantic Dominant

      August 7, 2012 at 4:42 pm

      I take it you mean ‘Fifty Shades of Badly Written Ill-Informed Rubbish’! The lowest common denominator always wins through in the end. The reverse of natural selection. Depressing.


  6. shapeofagirl

    August 7, 2012 at 3:33 pm

    Absolutely. To everything.


    • Romantic Dominant

      August 7, 2012 at 4:43 pm

      I am glad you agree


  7. mlbk7

    August 8, 2012 at 6:42 am

    RD…I had to do a private book review on Fifty Shades. “The story is a mess of “Jerry Springer” trailer trash type drama. The character’s have no clue with worse than fake dominance and pretend bi-polar type symptoms. The reading is pure chaos. The content is no more than role-play and rough sex with a hint of BDSM. Literary-wise…I seriously doubt if it wins any awards. I do not endorse or recommend.”


    • Romantic Dominant

      August 9, 2012 at 7:15 am

      Indeed. A book that can only be enjoyed by the illiterate and/or uninitiated


  8. Whimsy Mimsy

    January 7, 2013 at 4:27 am

    I should have read this before …


  9. Leslie Meeks

    May 25, 2015 at 11:45 pm

    I simply agree with this.

    Liked by 1 person


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