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If it helps

02 Jul

I have been told that this blog and my twitter feed are hard to follow.

That they slide blithely between past and present with a tendency to obscure. That the edges of what is truth and what is fantasy might be blurred.  That the beginnings and endings of relationships sometimes appear untidy, disjointed, disconnected.  That there is no narrative flow….

They are not a work of fiction. Nor are they a diary.  It is merely a notebook. It is a now-and-again capture of real events or feelings that have happened in the past or are happening now.  Perhaps in small part they are imagined.

But fortunately my life has been, and still is, rich and full enough for my words to be fat with fact and thin with fabrication.

And sometimes, you might just recognise you in my lines. Especially if we have become close …

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© the author writing as Romantic Dominant

Art by Fabian Perez

 
40 Comments

Posted by on July 2, 2012 in Still Life

 

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40 responses to “If it helps

  1. Evelyn

    July 2, 2012 at 11:50 am

    you are taking a young girls comment much too seriously…
    to warrant a post? I am flattered.
    I’ve been an adoring fan for so long…

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    • Romantic Dominant

      July 2, 2012 at 11:52 am

      I always take you seriously
      Smiles

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  2. eroticexploration

    July 2, 2012 at 11:50 am

    That is useful, thank you. It’s delightfully following your thoughts, and I rather enjoy not knowing more than you choose to share, and adding in my own contextual guess-work!

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    • Romantic Dominant

      July 2, 2012 at 11:52 am

      I am glad you enjoy. Thank you.

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  3. Suqui

    July 12, 2012 at 11:42 pm

    I’ve been in your world for all of 5 minutes. I can already say that your words are going to be one hell of reading ride I will enjoy.

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    • Romantic Dominant

      July 13, 2012 at 8:44 am

      Thank you. I hope you enjoyed.

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  4. Daydreamer

    September 7, 2012 at 5:05 pm

    You do have a way with words! The posts I have read thus far entrance from beginning to end…

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    • Romantic Dominant

      September 8, 2012 at 9:50 am

      I am glad you are enjoying. Thank you for reading.

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  5. Blackbird

    September 27, 2012 at 12:58 pm

    In reply to you dropping by….. “….as is yours”. Do you write songs for sopranos?
    BB

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    • Romantic Dominant

      September 27, 2012 at 3:24 pm

      Sadly I am a lyricist rather than a songwriter. Unless you include writing guitar tab to enable me to sing my own words in a cracked voice.

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      • Blackbird

        September 27, 2012 at 5:10 pm

        I most certainly do include it! I have a student who comes and sings sad, beautiful songs to his guitar. I imagine that’s what you do. With poetry for words. I went back to the story I’m writing after visiting your blog and felt very underwhelmed by it…. I’m better at interpreting!

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        • Romantic Dominant

          September 27, 2012 at 6:27 pm

          I am sure you are capable of both invention and interpretation

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          • Blackbird

            September 27, 2012 at 8:30 pm

            Yes. With the right dom. Hey ho!

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            • Romantic Dominant

              September 27, 2012 at 9:31 pm

              Smiles

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  6. littlegriff74

    October 7, 2012 at 10:47 pm

    Such a sensual kind hearted man just to share

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    • Romantic Dominant

      October 8, 2012 at 9:31 pm

      You are too kind

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  7. author4u

    November 17, 2012 at 2:42 pm

    As a reader it is necessary to connect with the writer, those that are not connecting perhaps are not meant to.
    Every writer has their own style and flow, to not be true to that style and flow, would be an act of being untrue to yourself.

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    • Romantic Dominant

      November 17, 2012 at 5:18 pm

      True. Although I even find myself obscure at times. Smiles. Thank you for reading and commenting.

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  8. Whimsy Mimsy

    November 20, 2012 at 10:51 pm

    Knowing context is always appreciated. 🙂

    I think your notebook is much like an impressionist painting, bits, pieces, layers, and finally stepping back to gain perspective…lovely from any view.

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    • Romantic Dominant

      November 20, 2012 at 10:55 pm

      That is a wonderful compliment. I appreciate it. And yes. Perhaps a collage of myself … But now I am taking myself too seriously and becoming pompous. It is merely a jumble of words that almost make sense.
      Thank you for reading and commenting.

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      • Whimsy Mimsy

        November 20, 2012 at 11:06 pm

        a collage is never pompous, and if so just dust with a little glitter and more modge podge and its all good. 🙂

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        • Romantic Dominant

          November 20, 2012 at 11:08 pm

          Such a sweet creature is good for my soul. The night is inky black. I must sleep. Goodnight Mimsy.

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  9. ElementalEloquence

    November 24, 2012 at 2:41 pm

    …and as darkness falls the velvet curtain rises to reveal that which is hidden within…i lay my soul to sleep and dream of this inner realm…

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  10. loulou8888

    January 12, 2013 at 1:13 pm

    Beautiful writing. Romantic, yes. Unnerving to me, as I have a primal repulsion toward men who need to dominate and objectify women in any way…yet there is no denying your gift. I am fascinated, and will no doubt follow your work, if only in secret, drink in hand.

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    • Romantic Dominant

      January 12, 2013 at 2:44 pm

      I could not agree with you more. I adore women utterly – your intellect, your sensitivity, your femininity, your bodies, the difference between your ‘species’ and mine. I do not objectify. And as for Domination – I abhor patriarchal societies, bullies, rapists, misogynists and those that seek to control women against their will. But my Domination always meets an equal desire for submission and gives fulfilment and happiness, and deep sexual joy.
      I am delighted to be your secret pleasure. Smiles.

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  11. demimondeobservations

    April 14, 2013 at 7:08 am

    I just found your blog and absolutely adore it. I’ve ever intention of making a cup of tea and slowly reading through it. It’s such a lovely vignette.

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    • demimondeobservations

      April 14, 2013 at 7:09 am

      That should read every rather than ever.

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    • Romantic Dominant

      April 14, 2013 at 2:15 pm

      I hope you enjoyed and the tea was good.

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  12. Jessica Lapin (@JessieLapin)

    April 18, 2015 at 12:02 am

    Hi. I am intrigued by the sub/Dom relationship. Do subsmissives always have to be physically hurt or degraded? I’m drawn to the idea of being submissive in the hands of someone experienced but I’m not aroused by pain or degradation.

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    • Romantic Dominant

      April 18, 2015 at 9:52 am

      Every relationship is different. There are some Dominants who enjoy humiliating and degrading their submissives. My views on it are here https://afadedromantic.wordpress.com/2015/02/06/if-you-are-a-submissive

      As for pain – the giving of extreme pain has no attraction for me at all. But because of the way the brain deals with pain and pleasure, pain on a milder scale can be deeply arousing.

      Remember that submission is your gift to give. Only bestow it upon someone who truly inspires you to give it. And who is clear on what they will seek from you. And whom you instinctively trust.
      Good luck if you should venture down the path..

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  13. jeslap

    April 18, 2015 at 11:04 pm

    Thank you. I hope that I will meet someone like you, or maybe even you, one day x

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    • Romantic Dominant

      April 18, 2015 at 11:07 pm

      I’m sure you will meet someone better and less faded.

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      • jeslap

        April 19, 2015 at 1:33 pm

        I have read a lot of your work. Where you write faded I read experienced, matured, genuine – but we all see beauty in others where they cannot necessarily see it themselves. I would find the courage to surrender myself to you, and I know that I would be given so much more in return, but timing is everything and I have arrived late to the party so I shall continue to swim in your words and ask the universe to send me someone to fulfil my dreams x

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  14. hisalone2016

    August 29, 2016 at 1:24 am

    Finding myself fascinated reading your writings. Being completely new to D/s thinking, I didn’t realize until recently that I AM a submissive woman. Having attracted very dominant men my entire life makes sense now. lol. I am in the first days of a D/s relationship. Ergo “sub in training” I suppose. The reason I am commenting is that your style of “speaking” reminds me if my first husband. I believe he probably desired this type of relationship when we were young but didn’t know what it was exactly. Anyway, your words are giving me insights into HIS mind..and helping me understand him and have peace about why we failed. Thank you.

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  15. sunandini bansal (@i_can_b_a_riot)

    October 25, 2016 at 3:24 pm

    I need to get in touch with you regarding the issue at lettrs. Please contact me at your earliest possible convenience at sunandini@lett.rs. I will be waiting to hear from you.

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